The Framework of Forgiveness – Revisited

We wrote this blog in 2016. But it seems to be very apropos for today as well. Just know…this road is a journey not a race with a finish line. Keep learning. It’s the way we continue to grow. Love…

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Forgiveness is one of the toughest challenges we face in this life.  But did you know the primary blocker to forgiveness has nothing to do with the act of another but everything to do with yourself?

This week I found myself infuriated with a person from work.  It all stemmed from something that I look at now and qualify as trivial.  A difference of opinion.  But I interpreted and ingested her comments and her tone as completely disrespectful and in front of others so therefore, my mind went into “attack back mode.”

SIDE NOTE: As my cousin and I continue to write this blog as we have over the past year and 3 months, full of advice, best practices of life and teachings there are two things I really want to convey to our audience…1) neither he nor I are emotionally immune to life as it happens and 2) we all learn by teaching.  And this blog has provided us an avenue to teach and learn at the same time.  And for that, we are forever grateful.

I could feel my blood pressure rise.  We got into the car with the other people and I launched back at her to “put her in her place” so to speak.  Then when we all got to dinner, I proceeded to completely ignore her and talk over her whenever she tried to speak or join in the conversation.  I woke up the next morning feeling the same.  I was MAD!  And I was aware that I was mad.  And being aware of your emotion is the first step to understanding the Framework of Forgiveness.

Enlightenment is about complete awareness.  In this situation, as it was happening, I was caught up in the “story” my ego was creating and sharing with my consciousness.  My ego was weaving a story of what all of this meant…”she disrespected you! She won’t get away with THAT!  You show her who’s boss!  Strike back to assert your authority!”  The ego will always feed the need to be “right” in any situation.  So as I prepare to start my day and head back to southern California with this person, I reflect on how I truly FEEL.  And what I desire to FEEL.  The framework of my forgiveness actually has nothing to do with HER but everything to do with ME.  Therefore, the second step to understanding the Framework of Forgiveness is to check your ego and humble your spirit. 

Humbling your spirit does not make you a doormat.  Humbling your spirit does not make you weak.  Humbling your spirit does not make the other person “right” and you “wrong.”  Humbling your spirit creates a path of allowance.  As we’ve stated before, there is only resistance and allowance.  When we are angry, upset, infuriated…all of our cells, organs and tissue becomes restricted.  This is why our blood pressure rises.  Because we are restricting ourselves.  Now imagine humbling your spirit and allowing yourself to breathe easy.  You immediately feel an opening of flow.  This is allowance.  When we understand what we DESIRE to feel and want to manifest that desire of emotion, we must create a path of allowance in order for it to flow.  Humbling your spirit is the catalyst to that allowance.  In that allowance, we now have the ability to create.  This is the third step in the Framework of Forgiveness.  Creation.

Create what?  Create what you desire to have happen next.  Creation can only be realized when it is born out of a loving space.  The love you want to experience has nothing to do with the person who made you angry but the love you have for yourself and the authentic desire to be in harmony with yourself.  Don’t be confused to take this as the passive aggressive approach to the situation.  “I’m just gonna love ME and ignore her.”  No.  Love to say, “I desire a harmonious relationship with this person because that is what is most healthy for ME.”  Create that space.  Envision that space.  Expect that space.  This is you loving yourself and desiring the best for your own well-being.  I once read something that said, “holding onto your anger against another person is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die.”  So LOVE yourself enough to release the limiting story your ego is creating.  YOU have the power to create the best space that makes you the happiest.  But it must be created from a space of love for not only yourself but for that other person and life in general.  If harmony is what you desire to create, then you must also embrace harmony as an expectation inclusive of all things.  THAT’S what “harmony” is.

So to reiterate…there are three steps to the Framework of Forgiveness:

  1. Be Aware of Your Emotion.  Analyze what you feel.  Why do you feel that way?  Expose it all.  Go into detail about what you feel and why you feel that way without judgment of yourself or the other person or people.
  2. Check Your Ego and Humble Your Spirit.   Your ego is equivalent to a bully.  The bully wants to intimidate you and make you THINK something is, that it is not.  When you stand up to the bully, the bully shrinks back into the insecurity from which it came.  Your ego is forever frightened of being exposed.  This is why it creates stories to justify its existence.  Put your ego in it’s place.  The authentic power you possess is in your spirit.  Your soul.  So be in touch with THAT instead of being in touch with your ego.
  3. Create.  Once you have acknowledged and embraced your full emotion, understanding WHY you feel the way you do, then putting that emotion into context of your ego and your spirit, now you can create a space of allowance or flow.  Create what your expectations are. When understanding the Framework of Forgiveness, you have the authority to create a harmonious space because you are no longer restricted.  You have seen the issue, embraced your emotion, checked your ego, humbled your spirit and now you’re ready to create a brand new space that feels WONDERFULLY blissful to YOU.

Practicing these steps will offer you the best road to peace, happiness and tranquility.  Because the Framework of Forgiveness actually has little to do with the other person but everything to do with how you feel and how you DESIRE to feel.

Finding Your Place of Solace

sol·ace
/ˈsäləs/
noun
  1. comfort or consolation in a time of distress or sadness.
    “she sought solace in her religion”

I often speak with people about meditation. Mainly because meditation is where I find my solace. The responses and dialogues are usually, “I can’t do it. I don’t know how. I WANT to do it but I don’t have time.” But the reality is, meditation is not some elusive, mysterious place that is difficult to do or hard to find. Meditation is simply communing with that authentic part of who you are and is the place where comfort and consolation are the “norm.” If you “can’t do it,” it’s because you are out of balance between your mind, body and soul. And if that is the case, you are the one who should be pursuing it most. If you “don’t know how,” that is easily fixed. There are a number of apps for iPhone and Android that can help. i.e. Calm, Head Space, etc. If you “don’t have the time,” then you are telling me you don’t care about your own peace. And in that instance, we can not help you. Your time is managed by YOU. And if you can’t make the time to take good care of YOU…nobody else will do it for you. But why is any of this important? Why should you even care? “Everything is great in my life!” Right? Perhaps. Or maybe not. But Finding Your Place of Solace is vitally important to your individual cycle of life and pursuit of happiness, joy and peace because it helps to provide balance.

As a child, or for some of us, even as grown ups, can you envision what it feels/felt like to lay in your mother’s arms? To hear her comforting voice. To feel the warmth of her body while she told you everything would be okay? Solace. Peace. Comfort. Or as grown ups, we may find our solace in other things, such as, our comfy beds with lots of pillows and just the right firmness in our mattress. We may find comfort with a bowl of soup or hot cup of tea on a wintry day. We may go to the spa for a massage, a facial a manicure/pedicure and let loose all the issues and challenges we faced that day. Or we may put on our headphones and crank up the loudest heavy metal we can find and that’s where we find our peace. However we choose to pursue our solace, we find our own individual ways of doing so. But for those of you who can’t, don’t or won’t…there is an imbalance that your mind, body and soul are calling for.

Without balance in our lives, everything…everything is off kilter. Without balance, everything is just a little bit harder. But for many of us, this is the life we live and therefore living out of balance becomes our new “normal.” And that’s why when we suggest gaining balance through meditation, stillness, quiet time, people “don’t have time, don’t know how, or simply can’t do it.” Balance becomes foreign to you. And a life of imbalance becomes what’s “real.” But what if you could maintain a certain sense of balance? Then life becomes more steady. Stable. And you are poised to move evenly through life. THAT is the importance of finding solace. It helps keep you on track with what you desire to feel in the midst of what would normally knock you off balance. Solace becomes a ‘rock’ in the middle of a storm. Unmovable. Unphased. Steadfast.

Personally, meditation is my solace. Meditation does not have to be for hours on end at the top of some mountain. Meditation can be as simple as a deliberate interruption in the middle of your day for 2 mins of focused breathing. Simply stop. And breathe deeply for a couple of minutes. Focus on your inhale and exhale. Don’t rush it. Just breathe. And think about your breathing. Immediate solace. Immediate calm. Immediate focus is what happens. This allows you to regroup, to collect yourself, to reevaluate. Now imagine these feelings in the midst of a hectic workday. How valuable would that be? Yet, we often times ignore these possibilities because we are “too busy handling life,” as one of my friends told me. My response to her was, “life is too busy handling YOU.”

When I am in the midst of meditation, I feel comfort. I feel joy. I feel compassion. I feel grounded. I feel strong. I feel centered. I feel relief. I feel the coziness of laying in my mother’s arms as a child. I feel love. And here is the key…the more I practice this during the down times of my day, the more those same feelings project themselves in the midst of and throughout my day! Even when I am not in meditation. And because of this, my entire demeanor, my words, my thoughts, my actions are impacted by what is permeating throughout my spirit. My interactions are calm, leveled, balanced. The same goes for my thoughts and words. Peace becomes the norm. Happiness is genuine. And love abounds throughout it all. Whenever anything comes to disrupt what I have created for myself, it is an easy mental retreat to my soul where peace, balance and steadfastness reside. So I “touch home base” and then respond confidently, unshaken, unmoved and with peace.

Investing in your solace provides an ROI of being even keeled, balanced and solid. You will not be shaken or deterred. Finding your solace is finding your “happy place” as people have joked about. Finding your solace is finding that safe place where your confidence is restored, where clarity is pronounced and where comfort is freely given. Finding your solace is finding your peace of mind in the midst of WHATEVER is happening around you. Retreat to your solace. And emerge with the personal victories you desire.

Take a Journey…

 Why not? Why not take a journey? Because it’s “safer” where we currently stand? Because we’re afraid we may fail along the way? Because we talk ourselves out of it with make-believe stories of “big bad wolves” and villains who will be out to get us? Why not take a journey? The “journey” is why we are here.

I have a friend who blows my mind because she goes on these trips where she dives deep in the oceans, she snow boards in Japan and other exotic places, she seeks high achievement in life in general. I have another friend who organizes city-wide youth sports in Flint, MI. A town that has been in the top 5 list of Murder Capital of America for 10+ years. Where they have contaminated tap water to this day. Where the violence, death and poverty are that of a war-torn 3rd world country. I have another friend who is a wonderful artist and paints murals of homeless people, sells the art and establishes bank accounts with the money to help feed the people he has painted. I have another friend who travels to foreign lands as much as possible. He covets places he’s never seen and therefore decides to visit these places to experience their country. These people are not filthy rich. They are not martyrs. These are everyday working, 9 to 5, regular folk. But they CHOOSE to embrace the journey of their lives. They CHOOSE to break out of the ordinary, the mundane, the routine…to explore what else is actually possible. It’s time. It’s time for you to TAKE A JOURNEY as well.

As we all reflect on 2018 and make our resolutions for 2019, we’d like to offer you a few things to think about. People often say, “life is short.” But then the statement is left right there with agreement from others. “Yeah, life sure is short. Better enjoy it while we can.” And then we go right back to doing what we had been doing the entire time. If life truly is “short” then we owe it to ourselves to LIVE it as if it is that way! So, in the midst of creating New Year’s Resolutions, plan on taking a journey! A journey that is amazing, challenging, beyond your comfort zone, outside of your ‘norm.’ Do SOMETHING different. Something different that aligns with your innermost desires. As Nike says, “Just Do It.” Why not??? Your ‘journey’ doesn’t have to be extravagant or costly. Simply decide to do something outside of what you normally would do. The more we do things that are outside of our comfort zones, the more we actually experience life instead of observing life.

If I set a resolution for 2019 that I will lose weight, the most popular behind going to the gym, I am making a choice to step out of my comfort zone of eating what I want and not working out. Right? Where many people fall short of these goals are the commitment to the process as opposed to being committed to the desire for physical change. If I am committed to my desire for physical change, eating properly and going to the gym are just steps that support my true desire. If I focus my attention on the dread of eating properly and going to the gym, my commitment will falter because I am putting eating right and the gym ahead of my priority which is my desire for physical change.

If your desire is to be great, at ANYTHING, be committed to that desire. The way you go about getting to that greatness will unfold but you need not be overly concerned with the “how” but more so with “why.” The “why” will ground your thoughts, actions and expectations. The “why” provides the direction you need to keep moving forward. Staying committed to the “why” provides motivation when you don’t feel like continuing. My friend who dives and snowboards is not rich. But she has reasons, the “why,” that drives her to be committed to work hard, plan, save money and GO to create a life experience that breaks her out of her comfort zones.

Our innermost desires are like seeds. Seeds that have been planted within us by God’s hand. And just like seeds of the earth, depending on the condition, those seeds can either sprout, take root and grow. Or they can lie dormant and eventually die. But EVERY seed begins with life. And the potential to manifest. Our seeds of desire are meant to sprout and grow. And just as a small acorn can sprout to grow a hundred-foot oak tree, our seeds of desire are meant to grow into abundance just the same. And when that oak tree grows, it also helps provide life, comfort and inspiration to others that revel in it’s majesty. The same goes for the seeds within us. Our seeds of desire are not only for us. They are not solely our own. Our seeds of desire work in unison, in tandem, together with our Universe, our environment, our life experience to touch, influence and inspire others, ALL while creating true satisfaction within our own life experience. Our lives help sustain and inspire other lives. Therefore, it is our duty, to ourselves and to others, to tend to our seeds, to nurture our seeds, to water them to be sure they grow.

So take a journey. Challenge yourself. Do something that aligns with your authentic desires. Decide to go beyond our resolutions and embrace what you truly desire without fear, without angst, and with an expectation of personal growth. Trying new things can be scary. When we stifle ourselves from what life has to truly offer, we are stifling our life experience and extinguishing our inner most desire. Create a routine that supports what you have committed to. And be sure your commitment is in the right place; your authentic desires. After all, “life is short. Better take advantage of it while we can.” And…WHY NOT???

You Don’t Have To Die!

The phrase “Rest in Peace” has been a fixture in American culture since as long as I can remember. Popular on gravestones; Highlighted in obituaries; People have “shouted it out” as a term of endearment regarding their lost loved ones, while pouring out a little liquor on the curbside in remembrance of their lost homie. Even songs have included the acronym- R.I.P. or more commonly used now, R.I.H, meaning rest in heaven, as a way of commemorating the person no longer living.

These three words, so easily said and seemingly innocuous, yet have profound implications.  Of course, there can be no rest without some sort of work or toil being done, or maybe even a struggle. Rest in peace implies that life and living is work, and hard, and that there’s no real peace until your dead.  “May his soul Rest In Peace,” we often hear.   As to say you can’t get any real peace while your living.  What are we suggesting we’re needing peace from and is it necessary to die before you can rest in peace? We don’t think so.  As a matter of fact, we say emphatically- NOT.

Notice how even in what should be our most relaxed and peaceful states, we’re restless. We toss and turn when we sleep.  We sit to meditate, and it feels tortuous at times.  Even when I’m in my yoga practice I often feel in competition and very distracted.  Naps are rare.  Time-outs in sports are filled with retooling for the next move.  Plane flights are often extended opportunities to “catch up” from things left undone and our efforts to rest are replaced with other mind-filling things like watching a movie, reading, and chatting.  When we get in bed there’s the cell phone, the TV, a book, or something.  Poolside at the Bellagio?  There’s definitely no rest- music, laughter, talking, drinking, eating, etc.  And of course, all these things are good relaxation tools.  But what we’re talking about here resting in peace, free from mental movement.

The fact is as it relates to resting, we have many opportunities, albeit some of us more or less than others, but we definitely do have those moments where we can reset.  But usually what happens is, if you’re like me, you’re busying yourself while you could be resting, even mentally I’m very busy.  And this becomes habitual, to the point where you’re never ever really resting until you go to sleep and even then, it’s sometimes a restless sleep of tossing and turning, and not one of peace.

Just imagine how much better we would all perform and how much more value we could add to our lives and the lives of others, if when we rested, we really rested?  The parent would be much more patient with the child, the lover would be much more compassionate to the loved one, humanity would be much more honorable to one another, with increased abilities to see each other beyond what we’re presenting to one another in our misbehaviors.

There is simply nothing that works better than deliberate intention.

The bottom line is, if you want a more peaceful life, we have to find the discipline it takes to be still, get quiet, and rest in peace (while you’re still breathing lol). Matter of fact, concerted efforts to breathe deeply significantly calm the nervous system in ways proven that nothing else compares.  Our desire for peace must supersede our desire to get it done.  And the irony is the more you deliberately rest in peace, the more focused you are, the more aware you become, and the more productive you are.  You can get more done in much less time because you are mentally clearer.   And the other byproduct is, all the things you been asking for, you now are more of a vibrational match than you were before.  The things you want can now come to you quicker because there’s less resistance.  When you deliberately rest in peace you are now in direct alignment with you inner-being.  You now share the same space as your higher self.  And in this space is where the “miracles” take place.  Because you’re offering little to no resistance, you and the Creator become one.

To rest in peace takes practice, but just as it is with anything else that you do long enough, it becomes a habit.  If you truly want a life of peace, there has to be an intention that involves making the effort to carve out specific times of the day where your deliberate intention is to be mindfully quiet and calm.  You can call it meditation, a timeout, or just chilling.  But in order for it to work, it has to be deliberate and consistent, and we promise you, you will see results.  And over time you see tremendous results.

So, don’t wait until your dead.  Rest In Peace while you LIVE in Peace NOW!

 

 

 

 

 

Directions for Your Day…

Think back to the first day you went to your job. You more than likely needed directions on how to get there. After you drove there a few times, it became familiar to you and then you knew where you were going. Now days, if you’ve been at your job for a while, you have a routine. You know exactly when to leave to avoid traffic. Or you know alternative routes if there’s an accident. Or if everything is good, you simply follow the routes you normally take. Mindlessly. You don’t have to think about it because you know where you’re going. It’s comfortable. And driving to work becomes a mundane, routine with little thought. Nothing ‘wrong’ with that. It’s simply what we do.

Driving to work becomes a very passive action during our days, where on the first day of work, driving there had our full focus. Our full attention. “Don’t want to be late on the first day.” Now our attention is perhaps what’s on the radio, or we’re driving thinking about what we have to do for the day or we’re thinking about what happened at work that day, etc. The point is, we get to the place where our focus is not on directions to get to work because we don’t need to give our focus or attention to that. It becomes routine. But if we are not careful, that routine or lack of focus on direction also mimics our lives. Our existence. We can fall into a “routine of life” without direction. We’re still functioning productively in life, but our conscious for direction becomes muted. Commonplace. Plain. Dull. Callous. And we call it “normal.” Or we say, “life happens.” But what if you gave “Directions for Your Day?” What would happen then?

Without direction to our days, we tend to ‘go with the flow’ of what the day brings. Our days begin to run together. Time “flies” when there is no focus. “What happened to the time?!?!? It was just yesterday when the new year started!” This is what happens when we don’t provide direction and focus to our days. We lose them in our consciousness. It’s hard NOT to know what happened when you were are paying attention to it all. By focusing our attention on our DAYS, we activate our intentions and desires for our LIVES.

If you have a really “bad day,” and we ALL have days that are less than what we desire, you probably did not wake up that morning saying, “hey guess what?!?!? I’m planning on having a REALLY bad day today! Let’s get it started!” That’s probably not your expectation. Right? But did you have an expectation in the first place??? When we are simply “going with the flow of life,” the directions for our day are no longer our own. We are not directing. We are following. Following the influxes of emotion, circumstance, unwanted desire, etc. In this case, no action is action. The lack of action we took in the morning regarding providing direction to our day says, “whatever comes our way will be reacted to.” And we are okay with that. Until we have a “bad day.”

Providing direction to your day is also action. By providing direction to your day, you activate your intention. And your intentions compliment your desires. DISCLAIMER: This does not only mean positive thinking. This means positive and intended ACTION as well. Try waking up tomorrow morning with intention. In our everyday lives we become slaves to our routines. Why? Because they’re comfortable. They don’t require any extra thinking or movement or focus on our parts. And we’re okay with that because we are stressed enough regarding the other things we are tasked to do! But taking DELIBERATE action and providing DELIBERATE focus to our intentions are how we escape from those stresses and the comfortability of our routines.

Wake up in the morning and provide directions on how your day will go. What do you expect to happen that is aligned with your desire? NOT, what do you expect to happen because “it’s raining outside so traffic is gonna be crazy.” Or, “it’s Monday so it’s gonna be horrible.” Or I had an argument yesterday with my spouse so “today will be terrible too.” But first, decide what type of day it is you actually DESIRE to have! Do you DESIRE your day to be fruitful, productive, peaceful, joyous? What??? Seriously. WHAT type of day do you desire to have??? Ask yourself this question EVERY single morning when you awake. And ANSWER yourself when you ask it. Whatever the answer you give yourself, make THAT your intention for your day.

The interesting thing is this: when we provide directions to our days, we activate our intentions through our focus. And that focus of intention is directly linked to our desire. We no longer are a passive player in the game of life but an active participant imposing our will on what life brings our way. We are completely empowered, creating our realities and manifesting our desires. We are giving direction to the Universe. And the Universe is designed to conspire to deliver on whatever it is we are intending with our desired focus. Direct your day! Command your desire. And manifest your intention. Why? Because you can!

Don’t Take It Too Seriously

Man suffers only because he takes seriously what the gods made for fun.”– Alan Watts

In keeping with last week’s post “This World Is Our Playground”, we want to continue the subject with Don’t take it too seriously!  

I know it seems extremely difficult to NOT take things seriously, when so many things are taking place that are indeed of serious nature.  How can we achieve things that greatly matter to us, address urgent issues like terminal illness, or critical children/family situations, job seriousness that occurs daily, and on and on?  The fact of the matter is we live in a very serious world where serious things are taking place all the time.  Or so it appears so.

When I first learned about the Law of Attraction, and how my attention to things is what brings more of those things to me, I began to shift my perception.  I had been brought up to believe that life was serious and that all of my decisions and actions were very, very important, and never to be taken lightly.  However, when you’re taking life so seriously, it becomes hard and difficult, and not much fun; AND law of attraction keeps its’ promise to deliver to you that which you take so seriously.  I remember when my mother was making her transition.  One of the things she said to me was “you need to lighten up and stop taking things so seriously.” I think we all would benefit if we “Lightened Up.”  And the lightening up is a process that never really ends.  While many days we consciously choose to take the path of least resistance, there are others where we allow worry and control to seep back in, right?

Life is supposed to be enjoyed.  And if it is not for you, then something is amiss.

Just imagine for a moment you lived life with a carefree attitude and approach. Just imagine you were more lighthearted and willing to laugh at yourself and the awkward circumstances that life throws your way. Just imagine how much less stress, worry, and anxiety you would experience. Wouldn’t life just be better? Wouldn’t you just feel better about yourself? Don’t you think that you would feel empowered- that no matter what life threw your way that it would never shake your confidence or state-of-being?

Alter Your Perception of RealityMake a Mental Shift in How You Think

Okay, maybe you agree that you tend to take life a little too seriously, and that you want to lighten it up a little and make a change. You want to take a more lighthearted approach to living.You want to see the brighter side of life more consistently without all the stress, worry, and anxiety that typically eats away at us often.  How do we do this?

It all starts with making a mental shift and shifting your perception. This is all about making a shift in the way you think about your life and circumstances. It’s about shifting your perspective with how you choose to interpret the world around you.  It’s not so much about how the world is we live in, but rather how you perceive the world is.

The first thing to remember is that your perception of reality becomes your reality. In other words, your reality is colored by your expectations, and your expectations are a direct result of your beliefs.  And, of course, your beliefs naturally sprout from the thoughts you consistently allow yourself to dwell upon.

How you interpret the events of your life determines how you see them, how you feel about them, and how you subsequently deal with them. Likewise, how you interpret a person’s intentions affects how you respond to them. Therefore, in a sense, everything is relative and completely subjective.  It’s all up to you!   Isn’t that good to know.  You experience your reality based on how you have chosen to interpret that reality. Meaning that everyone’s experience can and will be slightly different.

Given this, it’s important to become aware that you always participate in how you view the world, the people, and the circumstances around you. Make a shift in how you think, and you subsequently alter how you interpret your world and what you experience as a result. This is a first important step that helps bring everything together full circle.

Make It a Game-

Next, approach your day and life as if it was a game, a board game of sorts, with different players having roles, some of which you’ve assigned to them, some who’ve shown up to play along with you.

I work.  A lot!  In my line of business, it is in fact very serious in nature in terms of service and product delivery that helps improve people’s quality of life.  So, it is very easy to get caught up in the seriousness of the whole thing.  I have found it very empowering to make a game of it.  A problem-solving type of game.  This may sound silly, but it works!  I approach different scenarios just the same way I would if I were playing a competitive board game.  I make it fun for me.  My days are so much more enjoyable.   Life doesn’t have to be hard, and neither does my work.  Taking this approach has one profound effect for me- It raises my vibration significantly!

Be Sincere but not Serious

Lastly, be sincere but not serious.  What this means is be deliberate and intentional with your truest desires and what you want out of any circumstance or situation, but don’t be burdened with how it turns out. Be sincere about what you want, but not serious about the outcome.

Fear less, worry less, don’t be so anxious.  All is well- REALLY!  There’s absolutely nothing occurring that you and God can not handle.  Laugh more, love more, give more!   Enjoy this wonderful life we’ve been given.

This World Is Our Playground…

  “And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God” Holy Bible, Romans 12:2

Would you like to play all day? Or work all day? What about if your work felt like play because you worked at doing what you love to do most? Would it still feel like work? Or would it be play? Most of us have never even considered the possibility. We are too busy “living life.” But the truth is, we aren’t too busy living life. We are too busy assimilating to what we believe we are supposed to be doing in life instead of pursuing what we’d love to do most. And THAT’S why it feels like work. Please allow me to show the way to the playground of life.

  1. Get to Know the Authentic YOU – Your soul is your life-force. Your soul is what animates the body. Without a soul the body is dead. Our souls have no expiration dates but our bodies obviously do. Therefore, in the time we spend on this planet, our bodies are not the most important thing. The authentic YOU, your soul, should be the most important part of living. Our souls are the true essence of our being. Our souls are what commune with our Creator before we come to Earth and while we are here. Our ethereal souls have power and command over all things material on Earth. Meditation brings you closer in alignment with your soul and with God. Meditate.
  2. Follow Your Passion – Each of us are unique. We all have various characteristics that help define who we are. Our passions in life also make up our uniqueness. We often neglect, negate and discount the things we are most passionate about because we look to equate and make connection between what is ethereal and what is material. For example, how many people do you know who are passionate about singing? They can actually sing like a bird but instead of following that passion, they relegate it to, “I can’t make no money on that. I need to pay my bills today!” So their passion becomes neglected. Passion does not have to equate to any particular talent. You may be passionate about helping others, running marathons, working in Corporate America…anything. But the important thing is to identify what you are passionate about. Do not simply go through life ignoring what you love to do. That thing that you would do even if you were not being paid. Pay attention to it. Focus on it. It’s uniquely yours.
  3. Pursuing Your Purpose – One of the main reasons why your passions should never be ignored or neglected is, your passions are closely related to your purpose. People often ask the question, “what is my purpose in life?” The answers lie in what you are passionate about. Whatever THAT thing is, should be explored, time should be invested and nurturing that passion should be priority. Following your passions help reveal your purpose. The ‘money’ you need to make and the bills you need to pay right now which preclude you from following your passions are self-imposed road blocks that stifle your purpose. Open your mind to the possibilities of how you can use your passions to fuel your purpose. Don’t let a material thing such as money, stop you from fulfilling your spiritual purpose. Follow your passion, find your purpose. And then create a vision for yourself and your purpose.
  4. Put Your Imagination to Work – We are created in God’s image. ALL things created started with a singular thought. At some point, someone thought there should be a better and quicker way to communicate. So instead of the Pony Express delivering mail and messages, the telegraph was created. Then the telephone, but you had to be patched to another network by a person. Then it evolved. Now days, our cell phones carry more technology than the spacecraft that landed on the moon. When we focus our passions to align with our purpose, we do not need to figure out the ‘end game’ of how it will pay us. The first step towards fulfilling your passions and purpose is not to take immediate physical action. As stated last week, Deliberate Thought IS Action! Therefore, THINK and imagine what it is you want. Imagine what it looks like to be living within your passion and purpose. Imagine what it FEELS like and allow yourself to actually be in that space, feeling and experiencing what you love to do. Provide detail to this vision; what are you wearing? What are you speaking about? Who else is there? What are they doing to help support your vision? Imagination is the catalyst to manifestation. Imagine operating within your purpose.
  5. Play with Perpetual Creation – You are God’s perfect creation. Why? Because the Creator created us to perpetuate creation! Everything continues to expand, evolve and grow. New thoughts, new dreams, new visions are created by the trillions, daily. As an individual, you have continuous thought on how to solve for challenges, how to experience your dreams and how to develop something new in your life. This causes everything to move and grow. From the simplest of things to the most complex of challenges, growth remains consistent. Through struggle, growth happens. Through chaos, growth is birthed. Through desire, dreams are manifested. We are derivatives of The Most High. It is in our spiritual DNA to perpetuate creation. This is why your dreams are not only possible…but probable.
  6. The Meaning of Life on Earth – This is an aged-old question that has a very simple answer. We are the ones who make it complicated. The meaning of life on Earth for us is, to commune with our passions and to identify our purpose. Once we’ve identified our purpose, it is up to us to imagine and envision that purpose being manifested. When we do that, we perpetuate God’s creation while living life at our fullest potential, thus satisfying the reason why we came here in the first place. THIS is the way we honor God wholly and completely.

So be free! Free yourself from the self-inflicted spiritual incarceration that says you can not live within your purpose because you are bound by material responsibility. Free yourself to embrace your truest passions and desires. Embrace the true power of the authentic you as a spiritual being with power and dominion over ALL material things. Use this time while you are here to perpetuate creation. We come here to Earth to play! To play with the power of creation that God has blessed us to have. Go. Play. And have a great time while you’re at it.

 

 

Deliberate Thought IS Action

In a discussion with my daughter, we were talking about the state of our communities, country, and world we live in, and she made a statement to me.  I was explaining to her that the reason we are where we are in the world as a society, and the reason anybody is where they are, is that we have focused our attention too greatly on what we don’t want and on desires that are not our truest, as mentioned last week in What Do you Want???  We have exerted most, if not all, of our nonphysical energy towards that which is unwanted.  And because this is an attraction-based Universe, more of the unwanted is forever showing itself.  My daughter said, “so you’re saying everybody should think more about what they want and that’s going to solve the issues. What about taking action?”

My response to her was, “anytime you choose to focus your thoughts and attention on a subject, whether it be in the positive or negative direction on that subject- YOU ARE TAKING ACTION.  Deliberate thought IS action.

It is not so much how the world is, but how you THINK the world is.

The Master once asked his disciples which was more important: wisdom or action.  The disciples were unanimous: “Action, of course. Of what use is wisdom that does not show itself in action?”  The Master said: “And of what use is action that proceeds from an unenlightened heart?”

It’s not about simply taking action.  It’s about taking mindful, inspired action that only derives from deliberate thought and deliberate thinking, that is aligned with your highest purpose. Some of us believe that any action is good action- not so.  Action misaligned, action that is not purpose-driven, results in unfulfilled hopes and wishes.  This is why we keep having the same problems and coming up with seemingly new solutions, only to fall back into the same issues we’ve always had.  Your thoughts are so much more impactful than your physical action.

When you have a problem and you focus your deliberate thoughts on a solution that aligns with your inner being, you have set yourself up for all the unseen forces of the Universe to assist in achieving that solution.  When you take action from that place of positive pure energy, from a place of positive alignment with your Creator, you will achieve your solution and other outcomes not yet realized.  Because from this place, the solution is not based on an outcome of someone else changing their behavior.  From this place the solution is based on outcomes that produce harmonious interaction between you and your inner being, which has the greatest cumulative effect to exponentially deliver on that which you truly desire.

How do you know that your action is coming from a place of alignment?  It is non-emotional.  You take action that is not based on anger, fear, resentment, hate, disdain, etc.  You take action based on love, inspiration, compassion, honor, joy, etc.  You take action from the place that best connects with your inner being.  How do you know?  Because it feels good.  The deliberate thought feels good, and the aligned action feels even better.  Just think about this for a second.  When you think about what you don’t want, it doesn’t feel good.  Likewise when you hold your truest desires in your thoughts of what you want, it feels great!  It feels great because that’s the same place where your inner being dwells, from that higher consciousness of love.

When you’re presented with an issue, you have thoughts about the issue, and your inner being has thoughts about that same issue.  If you are not in alignment with your inner being on the subject, your emotions will indicate it to you right away and let you know you’re out of alignment.  DO NOT TAKE ACTION!   Take the time to align yourself with the thoughts of your inner being, again your emotions will let you know when you’re there by how you feel.  Then TAKE ACTION!

Deliberate thinking involves intentionally choosing thoughts that are high in vibrational frequency; thoughts that elevate you energetically, and empower and inspire you.  It involves bringing your whole self into the present moment, engaging with life as it unfolds and realizing, as it unfolds, you have the innate power of influence to make profound changes.

 

What Do You Want???

 Can you readily answer that for me? I asked several friends of mine this question this past week…”what do you want?” What I heard was the equivalent to putting ‘band-aids on bullet wounds.’ It might help stop the bleeding, but the injury is far from healed. “I want a million dollars! I want a big house! I want money to spend endlessly. I want a good job. I want a husband to make me happy. I want the President impeached! I want the Democrats to stop whining! I want the freshest clothes. I want an Xbox ONE (my kids).” I want! I want! I want!

So I rephrased the question. “Minus anything materialistic, or without involving another person, what do you want?” The answers changed to “peace, happiness, joy, civility for humankind.” One person said, “I want God to continue to order my steps. I want to live a purposeful life where my gifts can help as many people as possible.” I heard, “peace of mind” as what someone covets most. Another person said “I want more time.” So I asked a couple of people, “why is it you tell me what you desire most is peace, love and happiness, now, but when I first asked you, the response was more around something material…like a million dollars?” There’s no judgment here, because I’m sure MANY of us have those same answers. But it brings to question, if your first answer to the question is suggestive of something material, are we focused on the ‘wrong’ things, thus NOT attracting our truest desires?

We all know the old saying, “money can’t buy happiness,” but we still want to try it out to see if it’s true or not. LOL. We focus on getting more and more…things. Things have expiration dates. The opposites of material things are long-lasting and forever. The non-tangibles of life that are the foundation of desire; Love, Peace, Joy, Happiness, Compassion, Grace. Fundamentally, most of us would love to have these types of feelings and emotions on a consistent basis. Yet our focus tends to surround thoughts of how to get and gain more material. “How can I work harder to afford the car I want? Once we get that big house, we’re going to be SO happy! If I had a hundred thousand dollars I’d be STRAIGHT!” Yeah…maybe those things are true. But what we focus on expands. And when we are thinking from a space of lack…the ‘lack’ continues to grow.

When we think like, “man! I’d be so happy if I had a hundred grand,” we are basically saying to the Universe, “what I currently have is not enough.” You are setting a path in motion that, supported by your thought and emotion says, “I don’t have enough.” And the Universe is not going to respond with “Oh! he/she doesn’t have enough so let me provide more.” This is the irony of our thought, energy, expectation and focus. The Universe is going to ALIGN with YOUR thought process, energetic vibration, and deliver on your expectation based on your focus. The same goes for EVERYTHING you are thinking, feeling, expecting or focusing on. For example, in our country right now, I hear a lot of people from these imaginary opposite sides, full of emotion about what it is they DON’T want. “I don’t want illegals coming into our country! I don’t want Republicans in office! I don’t want another mass shooting! I want police brutality and murder to stop!” All of this is being said and felt on a very high emotional level and the Universe is looking to align directly with your emotional thought process because of the emotive, vibratory marker that is being sent.

Framing your thoughts to align with your authentic desire simply takes an inverse of the way you’ve been used to thinking, speaking and feeling. For example, I asked my friend, “why do you want a million dollars?” And he said, “because that money would give me more freedom to do what I want.” (band-aid on a bullet wound) I said, “so what you REALLY want is more freedom. And you feel that a million dollars is the means to grant you that freedom.” He agreed. So I offered, “don’t express that you want a million dollars. The better and more aligned communication is to say ‘you desire more freedom.'” Freedom is the intangible. Freedom then becomes a state of mind. The “how” you gain that freedom is then left open to Universal interpretation and the Universe is conspiring to deliver exactly what you desire without boundary or limit.

Another friend told me she “wants Trump out of office!” I said, “okay…why?” She proceeded to share her thoughts about his perceived “hatred and bigotry and his love for perpetuating chaos.” So I offered, “it sounds to me that what you TRULY want is a place with less or no hatred and bigotry without the chaos and a better sense of calm and tolerance for humanity.” She responded, “YES!!! EXACTLY!!!” I laughed and asked her, “well why did you not simply focus on THAT instead of the person who you think is causing all of these things? Because your focus and energy says you would like to attract more of what is currently bugging you into your experience.”

One of the main challenges in our lives is, we are determined to “fix it” or to “make it happen” or to “hustle it up.” This is NOT manifesting desire. That is not how desire is manifested. Desire is manifested, not from the physical aspect, but from the spiritual. It’s not our job to figure out the HOW all the time and “fix it.” That’s not our job. Our job is to express our true and authentic desire. Maintain the focus of that desire. Manage your expectations staying steadfast. Envisioning how your true desire feels, what it looks like, feeling the emotion of that desire being manifested and living within that manifestation. THESE are the ways thoughts become things because the Universe is always aligning with the thoughts, desires, emotions, expectations and focus YOU are emitting. This isn’t about “happy thoughts.” This is about DELIBERATE THOUGHT. Your desire is the catalyst to creation. Deliberate thought is the vehicle to manifestation. So do not spend time and energy on those things you don’t want. Instead, spend time, energy, emotion, focus and expectation on those things you DO want in order for them to become your reality. You will know you’re on the right track when other things, people, circumstances and situations begin to cross your path and you think of them as coincidence. Just know…there is no coincidence. Only purpose. Purpose that aligns with what you are attracting into your life experience.

Create Your Blessings

“Only thing I can attribute it to is God.”  This is a quote from Brendan Kelly during an interview he had after he survived being in his second mass shooting.  He was involved in the Las Vegas shooting that happened last year and survived and now has just recently survived the Thousand Oaks shooting two weeks ago. Amazing!  Stroke of luck?  Blessed?  Or a lot of both?

Certainly, if you subscribe yourself as a believer in God, then you would say that Kelly was blessed by all spiritual standards, as he himself spoke of attributing his survival to God.  Some would definitely say it was through God’s grace and mercy that he was not killed like many others that were in the same place right at that same time.   Does this mean the others who died were not blessed?  And what made God spare Kelly’s life?  Is it the fact that he is such a great human being in God’s eyes that he was saved?  How/why did he experience such “favor”?  Or is he simply an extremely lucky individual?

ser·en·dip·i·ty/ˌserənˈdipədē/  noun

noun: serendipity; plural noun: serendipities

  1. the occurrence and development of events by chance in a happy or beneficial way.

“a fortunate stroke of serendipity”

bless·ing; /ˈblesiNG/

noun

noun: blessing; plural noun: blessings

  1. God’s favor and protection.

Throughout the years, I, like many others, tended to discount terms like luck, chance, coincidence, or serendipity as blasphemous or un-Godlike, as if the Source of all creation can’t provide you with a stroke of luck or tremendous great fortune.  Luck and chance are just as much part of God as anything else.  There’s no part of creation that the Source of everything is not a part of.

Two teams playing for the championship ball game ‘praying’ for the same outcome, with tremendous fervor.  The ball bounces off the rim, off the back board 3 times, then drops through the hoop for the buzzer beater winning score.  Or the kicker kicks the football, it hits the upright, and bangs through for the winning point in a double overtime game.  Was this a blessing, luck, chance occurrence, or fluke?   If you asked the fans and the team that won the game, that prayed for victory, they would say they were blessed.

Of course none of these scenarios are a matter of life or death, and I think that we could all agree that God cares not about the outcomes of any ball games or wars either for that matter.  However, when it comes to more serious matters, particularly someone escaping a death situation, we tend to certainly call these “blessings”.  He survived cancer, he’s so blessed.  Her surgery was a success, God blessed her.   This is because as a society we see death and dying as something of tragic end, especially if it appears to have happened prematurely.  So, Brendan Kelly’s situation was blessing, while Lebron James just hit the lucky shot.  Or maybe he too was blessed to receive such luck?

“Tragic death,” as we see it, is tragic because of the “how” when it happens. It’s not as “tragic” when it’s a person who passes away from “natural causes” at the age of 100 years. But we certainly see the tragedy when there is a child shot down in a mass shooting at the age of 7. And as heinous, as criminal, as tragic as this looks and feels…it is certainly a part of an overall order of things. That doesn’t mean we skip along in happiness and chalk it up to “it’s just something that happened.” But what it means is, we can put “tragedy” into context, knowing all things happen on purpose and as they are supposed to. THIS is having all faith and peace with God. THIS is having the understanding of why things happen the way they do. And at the same time, God has empowered us to create blessings when we have this type of understanding. Empowered us to create blessings through our alignment, through our faith and through our expectation.

We tend to put our good fortune into the hands of a fickle fate.  Meaning we feel blessed and special when things go well and cursed and forgotten when things go wrong.  When things don’t go the way you want them to, whether large or small, we don’t say that we weren’t blessed.  Unfortunate maybe, or too bad, so sad etc.  But God, the source of all things, is in it all.  Source is a part of the all in all- misfortunes, chances, serendipity, blessings.  Source is at the center of all of it.  And through our own vibrational output, we can increase and/or decrease the “chances” of having huge misfortunes, or tremendous blessings.  And oftentimes what we see as “bad”, God doesn’t see it like that at all.  Life is happening, cycles are taking place, all the time.  New life comes in, while existing life transcends, and everything in the middle is also part of the cycle.

Aligned Blessings

The Universe works in Divine order governed by certain laws and principles.  When we act in accordance with the laws and principles, we receive the benefit of attracting what we desire into our lives (blessings).  When we act out of accordance with the laws and principles we attract things that we don’t desire into our lives

When you are aligned with vibrations that support your highest self, then you manifest your highest and best outcomes in many forms – which can look a little like something outside of yourself bestowing something of good upon you.

You’ve heard us talk much about being in vibrational alignment with your inner being.  This alignment creates the greatest amount of leverage for you to receive blessings, luck, or whatever you wish to call it.  When you’re in alignment with the highest part of yourself, you set yourself up to coincide, through attraction, with the highest part of the Universe.  Coincidences are merely two things coinciding at once, appearing to have no connection.  There is nothing inherently wrong with a coincidence, and coincidences do not discount God and/or reason.  And when you are functioning at your highest vibrational alignment there are bound to be tons of “coincidences” occurring all around you, all the time- FAVOR!  Your highest and most continuous favor comes from your own energy vibrational alignment, and willingness to care about how you feel, whereas to attract more things to feel good about.

So does blessing and luck have anything to do with each other? Not if we think that luck has nothing to do with God. But if we see God, the Source of all, as a giver of luck or blessings, then the two can be closely related.

Why was Brendan Kelly witness and a part of two mass shootings yet lived to tell the tale of them both? Luck? Favor? Bredan’s expectation? Who knows! But the fact is, he lived and witnessed others “die.” We never know how those situations and circumstances that surround those acts have and will affect others around him, the people he has and will touch, influence, direct, etc. The same goes for those who did not survive. Their lives, while they lived and those affected in their death alters and creates something new. We will never know all of the thousands even millions of new outcomes that have been created by what has transpired. But it all facilitates growth and expansion. It is ALL part of a larger Universal symphony, operating in order although we perceive it as chaos.

 

 

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