Every Cycle is a Circle

  Have you ever thought about what you don’t think about? LOL…like breathing. We don’t consciously THINK about breathing, but it happens. And sometimes we think about the fact that we don’t think about breathing. Thank God we don’t HAVE to think about it constantly in order for it to happen. Otherwise, we may stop breathing altogether. LOL…but what about the things we do in everyday life? Do you actually think about driving to work everyday? Or does it simply happen without your conscious thought? For most of us, when we fall into a routine, it becomes less conscious work for us to complete the tasks associated with those routines. The same happens regarding our thought processes. And sometimes, those thought processes continue to play out in the realities of our lives over and over and over again. The cycles become circles.

We have heard or some of us have lived perpetual, destructive cycles. An extreme example is when children live with abuse in their homes. Sometimes they are destined to perpetuate that cycle of life into adulthood which hinders their relationships. Or on a more subtle level, you “know for a fact that come Monday, I’m going to go to work with a bad case of the ‘grumpies’ because that’s just the way it is.” Or we often times hear people say, or we say regarding other people, I/they are “stuck in their ways.” Well…exactly WHO made it that way? The larger question is, are you happy with who and where you are, by being “stuck in your ways” or would you prefer to be someone else?

While there are cycles of attitude, disposition and character, there are also cycles of circumstance. The great news is, ALL can be adjusted to fit your desire. Do you know of someone who is a perpetual victim? Perhaps a person who perpetually spends money and is always without? Someone who perpetuates drama in every relationship? Or on a happier note, do you know someone who has created a cycle of perpetual happiness? Cycles create circles.

We are designed and created to be in a constant state of growth and development. Our souls and our minds don’t stop growing like our bodies. Our souls and our minds operate in perpetual and infinite growth. Being “stuck in one’s ways,” is a choice. A very real choice that states, “I refuse to learn, grow, self-reflect, assess or be self-aware. I am just me and that’s where I stop.” And fyi, this goes against your authentic being. When we go against who we TRULY are, we do not find happiness. We find disgust, lack of fulfillment, unhappiness and frustration. Recognizing and making an effort to break a cycle you are in is imperative in being spiritually successful. AND it will create a space for personal happiness to grow. But how do we take the first steps to break our cycles? Three steps make it simple:

  1. Recognize the Cycle Exists – So often we are destined to continue or repeat our same cycles because we don’t recognize them as being cycles in the first place. They have become so familiar and expected, they become seemingly permanent residents in our psyche. When identifying a cycle, start at the end. The final result you don’t like. Then work your way backward through a string of events that lead to the ending. Do you recognize any patterns from this chain of actions with other or similar situations in your life? Then you’ve successfully identified behaviors that are leading you down a path you do not desire. (don’t judge yourself. only observe)
  2. Create Small Goals of Change – If what you’ve identified is an actual cycle or pattern of behavior, you can’t expect to break it overnight. It takes small, calculated, consciousness to begin to break down the walls of your cycle. For example, if you have recognized the cycle of the same argument you have with your spouse when he expresses a particular view on a subject that sends you into emotional orbit, first recognize the events that make it happen. Then, instead of being angry with him because of what he said, DECIDE that you will CHOOSE a different response. A different way to think about it, because you are aware it is happening. But the key is to be sure your response is authentic to YOU. Don’t simply say, “I’m just going to overlook that.” Or, “I’m not gonna let him get to me today.” These statements will only mask what you truly feel. Actually decide. You have identified the cycle. Now you are choosing to feel a different way about it. How? Acknowledge that he has a right to whatever HE chooses to feel, say or do. If what he is saying or doing is hurting you, then choose to be out of that situation. If not, then simply allow him to be in that space without ingesting and feeding your emotions about something you can not control. Practice this on a small scale. At work. At home. With your children, etc. until you begin to feel confident in identifying cycles and creating small changes within yourself to affect the outcome.
  3. Define What You Want and Who You Want to Be –  There is nothing actually “wrong” with the person you are right now this moment. But sometimes, we want to be “better” for us. Not for anyone else. We want to grow, prosper, be happy, etc. But many times, we don’t actually believe we can be that person. We set up excuses or we levy judgment, prosecution and sentencing against ourselves regarding who it is we are or can be. Release all of that. EVEN and ESPECIALLY if you are 100% content with yourself and who you are right now. Open yourself to ascending higher. Open yourself to discovering more happiness. Open yourself to a positively, almost unimaginable you with every aspect regarding your being that you desire. As soon as you define who you are and who you want to be, you have given you soul an ultimate objective. If I want to be a good spouse and I have identified a cycle of argument and debate, I have started taking small steps towards breaking the cycle by creating a broader understanding of who I am and where I want to go, and I have also defined the person I want to be…then I have successfully broken that cycle.

When we are unhappy with people, situations, circumstances, etc. we can usually define a pattern or cycle of behavior within ourselves that helps perpetuate that cycle of unhappiness. And since every cycle is a circle, we are destined to relive that same experience over and over again until we break it. Breaking cycles is a proactive process born from an awareness of the cycle, a desire to be/have better and an expectation of that desire to be fulfilled. A cycle is a circle of imprisonment. When we break the undesired cycles in our life experience, we are set free to map a new course to ANY destination we desire.

“I DESERVE better…”

I deserve better!!  Says whom?

Have you ever witnessed something fantastic happen to someone or maybe to yourself that, in your mind, was undeserving?  While yet another person who, again in your mind, had worked harder and gotten far less than what they “deserved?”   We see “good” things happen to “bad” people all the time, and “bad” things happen to “good” people.  We say we follow and understand certain principles like reciprocity, karma, reaping/sowing, etc.  but then we see good fortune fall upon the unearned, while misfortune sometimes bestows the hard worker.  How and why?

Consider that the above Universal principles and all others for that matter, are designed to work for us, not against us.  The Universe and its Laws are set up to work in our favor. And in as much as its job is to support us, it cannot defy our vibration. It consistently delivers to us experiences based on what we are putting out, it has no choice. It’s similar to a computer—input and output.  It’s neutral regardless of whether you are a rich man or beggar. It is not a respecter of person.  LOA as well as other Universal principles work for everybody the same.  Isn’t this a wonderful fact?!? But in order to gain the full benefit of this support, we have to do our part by deliberately training and guiding our thoughts, beliefs, and feelings that allow this assistance that’s present for us 24/7 to work completely in our favor.

Forget Fairness

It’s not about being “fair,” or justice, or anything of this kind.  The LOA is always fair and just.  Living in this physical world in physical realities, we have a tendency to always need things to make “sense.”   Which means, often, we start assigning meaning to circumstances and events based on false premises and misconceptions. For example, we start thinking that hard work is a necessary element of success. And of course, putting in physical effort is sometimes necessary to move something from point A to B, but you’re probably also aware of the deep truth that extra effort doesn’t always pay off.  And that sometimes, you can work your ass off and you don’t get what you thought you “deserved.”  While other times you seemingly did nothing at all to get something spectacular to happen in your life.

When we experience certain circumstances and events in our lives, it is due to our being a vibrational/energetic match (on some level).  Our life experience is simply mirroring back to us who and what we are on a core level.  This is a tough pill to swallow, primarily because as things are manifested, they do not seem like anything at all that we are matched with (if it’s negative, if it’s positive we want to take full credit  😊).  So even though you have worked your butt off, done all the right things, and you don’t get the promotion, AND it’s given to someone you deem less deserving, it boils down to vibrational matching.

And just for the record, yes we ALL deserve the best of joy, peace, and happiness.  But not because we’re special people, or that we pray five times a day, or that we pay our tithes. Our mere existence makes us ALL worthy of everything this world has to offer.  Deserving is not based on what you have contributed or whether we’ve been a ‘good’ person.  You deserve what you create!  And you create through your vibrational countenance.  However, there is a sacrifice that does have to be made.  That sacrifice is not allowing your thoughts and beliefs to run rampant.  We must make the ultimate sacrifice of being conscious and deliberate thinkers.  And taking more responsibility for our habitual patterns of thought.  This can not be understated.  As you think, you vibrate, and as you vibrate, you attract. PERIOD!  Yes karma is real, but only due to the fact that good deeds generally are a product of good thoughts and vibrations, while bad deeds are usually products of negative thoughts and vibrations.  And remember the Universe is simply mirroring, so you get back what you put out.  But you can’t produce positive acts and deeds from a negative energetic space.  So it stands to reason when you do good you get good in return.  Not from your deeds, but rather from the thoughts/vibrations that produced the deeds.

This idea that we need to struggle and strive to deserve or earn what we desire is a limiting belief.  Or that “I’ve been through so many trials and tribulations, I DESERVE a better relationship than this.”  Do you?  You deserve exactly what you’ve created.  However, this is NOT about blaming yourself for any misfortune.  We believe in attraction, but there is often a misunderstanding associated with the term that insinuates, ‘you brought this on yourself,’ or ‘it’s your own fault,’ which couldn’t be further from the truth.  Manifestations that occur in our lives based on our vibrational thought patterns, happen as indicators to tell us where we are along the road map.  Am I going in the direction I want to go in or do I need to turn around?  Negative situations/circumstances help us to better focus our intentions for what we TRULY desire.

It is not because you deserve it, nor because you’ve earned; But because you are a vibrational match to it.  



Proactive Spirituality…

Do you go to church on Sundays? Do you pray towards the East seven times a day? Do you fast, meditate, pray to God? No matter the religion, the common denominator in all of them, whether you are Hindu, Muslim, Christian, Jew, etc., is living a life that reflects on the characteristics of a higher power of “good” within all of us. We are to treat each other with kindness, love, respect and compassion. Some religions challenge us to live to a higher standard of spirituality in this physical world. There are numerous rituals that are designed to keep us in remembrance of the life we are supposed to be living from a space of “goodness.”

Religions are created and designed to keep us on a track of living our best lives while contributing to the betterment of others. The fellowship, i.e. church, synagogue, mosque, etc., creates a space for spiritually like-minded individuals to come together to amplify their faith. We leave our places of worship and go back into the world, sometimes carrying those messages with us throughout the week and other times leaving our faith in the building we just left. We live in a perpetual cycle of “spiritual improvement.” We are constantly trying to live up to a standard and we all fall short because we are not perfect. In several religions, there are ways to rectify our shortcomings. Confession, prayer, atonement and so on. And we start the cycle over again with a promise to do better next time. But how can we live more spiritually, day to day, to help us grow to the people we truly want to be? By being spiritually proactive.

We all can “go through the motions” of religion, but living a proactive spiritual life can help determine how successful we will be with our spirituality. One simple way to begin to live life spiritually is by first understanding you are a spirit in the first place. When one thinks of God, Allah, Jehovah, the Most High, we generally associate emotions of love, compassion, understanding, long-suffering and grace. These are some of the characteristics religions look to push as goals and objectives in our daily lives. “Be more loving. Be more understanding. Be more compassionate.” All in the context of our human understanding. But if we don’t understand first, that we are all spirits (the bible says we are created in His image), then we are left to attempt to fit our imperfect, material lives, emotions and understandings, into this divine expectation. Understanding we are spirits in the first place grounds us in the understanding that we inherently share the same fundamental characteristics of the One who created us. Therefore, those same traits we strive to achieve are actually possible.

Second, if we are living from a spiritual proactive place, we also understand that the other people we see also share the same spiritual DNA as we do. They too come from the same exact location, are made of the same spiritual material and are children of the same Creator. The differences and the things that divide us all can be traced back to an ideology, skin color, socialization, economic difference or gender. All of our differences in society are based on something mental or physical…NOT spiritual. When we say ‘spiritual,’ we don’t mean religion. We mean your fundamental spiritual make up as your spirit does not identify with any particular religion. The religion is designed to keep you aware of the existence of your spirit. Therefore, with the understanding of, we are all spirits, coming from the same Creator, we are able to clear the way for an innate love, compassion, understanding and grace for every spirit we encounter. Our walls of difference are self-imposed and are not authentic in relation to our higher selves. When we have this understanding, our “differences” become trivial and we open ourselves to more love, compassion and understanding with our fellow spirits on Earth which is exactly what religions teach.

Lastly, when considering being spiritually proactive, every single spirit has a purpose for manifesting into physical form. Our thoughts, which are produced from a sense of desire which is produced in alignment with our purpose, help manifest into actual things, situations and circumstances. This is how we are designed. If you follow Christian belief in regards to how God created the world, the Universe and everything living, He spoke it into being which means it started as a thought which means it started as a desire which is/was aligned with God’s overall purpose…creation. We are made in His image and therefore are also perpetual creators. We have desires aligned with our purpose which feed our thoughts which feed our emotions, words, actions and deeds to ultimately create and manifest into physical things. God has empowered us in this way.

When we are being spiritually proactive…we are living within our purpose. We are living within what we desire most. And THAT is living the true meaning of life.

The Evolution of Thought

We’re all familiar with or at least have heard the fact that everything in existence was once a thought- Everything.  The entire world we see was once a thought in someone’s imagination or in the thought consciousness of the Universe.  Likewise, we also are very familiar with having a thought, and producing a tangible thing from our thoughts. Whether it be building a house, buying a car, landscaping a lawn, creating a beautiful portrait, etc. But the thought-to-thing creation we want to discuss briefly here is based on attraction.  Having a sustained thought, expectation, and belief and watching it manifest right in front of you, seemingly without any physical action on your part.

How does a vibration turn into a manifestation?  How does a thought turn into a thing? And how can we demonstrate more control and influence over our thoughts, turning them into the things we want?  Short answer:  Emotions.

It is our emotions and feelings that give life, and substance to thought.  The feelings we use to give substance to the thoughts in our mind come from one of two sources: fear or Love, which we can also say resistance or Allowance.  One feels good obviously, while the other, not so much.  Thoughts that are given substance with resistance or fear-based emotions of anger, bitterness, lack, resentment, frustration, or anxiety, will become things (physical life experience) that we experience as “negative” or “bad”.  Thoughts that are given substance with Allowance or Love based feelings such as gratitude, peace, joy, compassion, happiness and well-being, will become things we experience as “positive” and “good”.

Nothing we experience is intrinsically “bad” or “good.”  It is that our minds make it so through our perceptions and the definitions that we place on the things we observe and/or experience.  And through our internal beliefs we form habits of thoughts.  It’s been estimated that we all have roughly about 50-60 thousand thoughts per day.  Sounds like a lot, but not at all surprising to me when I think about how many thoughts run through my mind in a matter of seconds.  What is very intriguing to me however, is that of those 50K-60K thoughts you and I have today, most are the exact same thoughts we had yesterday and the day before and last week, and so on.  We think the same thoughts over, and over again. Which leads to the same emotions/feelings, which then leads to the same actions, and thus the same results.   It’s no wonder why we keep having the same life experience.  You want a new and different life?  Start thinking new and different thoughts.

So how do we do it?  How do we begin? Here’s what we’d like you to know and remember…these two things:  (1).  We are all energy-based beings, and as energy beings we emit vibrational frequencies that are always trying to match other like frequencies – like attracts like (we’re like magnets). (2). Thoughts matched with emotions is one of the most powerful forces we have as human beings.

So as it turns out, you attract what you are!  And you attract things that correspond to what you are, what you think about, and what you believe.  Whatever your mind perceives, it makes real! You and I are in a constant state of manifesting, turning non-material into material.  We are constantly creating something, either wanted or unwanted. Most times we manifest by default, without any intention, and thus create things that we don’t really want.  Imagine, if you will, what could happen if you deliberately set your mental intention. And didn’t allow your mind to run wild as it does.  What do you think you could manifest?

Your present situation is the result of your predominant state of mind in the past. Your future will be as your predominant state of mind is now.  Because you’re creating your future now, only the present is important. By having a predominantly happy and positive state of mind now, you’re creating a happy and positive future.  And your happy and positive thoughts will turn into happy and positive things.  Circumstances and situations don’t matter.  Only your state mind matters, and thus materializes!  The power is knowing that matter is supposed to be subject to mind, not vice versa.

Be picky about your thoughts.  Choose them carefully and wisely. Let your emotions guide you away from thoughts that are fear/resistance based and more towards thoughts that are from a place of allowance and love.  Make your desires known from this place. Set clear intentions. Then let go of thought and become consciously aware of the manifestations that are certain to come.

The Authentic You…

  Who are you? Do you know? Have you figured it out? Usually after we reach a certain age, we all pretty much think we have it figured out. What we like. Our morals, values, character, tastes, integrity, etc. We grow and we learn more about ourselves over time. Self-reflection. Self-evaluation. We explore. We keep certain parts and throw others away, with a constant sense of refinement. Some people never self-reflect or self-correct and are, as my grandmother used to say, “stuck in their ways.” But are these the elements that make you, YOU? Is that the authentic you?

LOL…I recently asked a friend if he knows who he is. Because I often offer him ‘deep’ questions/conversations, as he says, his response went something like this: “I don’t have time for your metaphysical mumbo-jumbo. I am who I am.” I laughed it off but my point was for him to explore a deeper side than being defined by his character, integrity, ambition or physical characteristics. I was pressing him to discover the authenticity of his being. When we know and understand the authenticity of our being…life is put into context. When we have context…we have clarity. When we have clarity…we are immediately empowered. Spiritually empowered in a seemingly chaotic world to manifest our deepest desires in this life.

So I pressed forward with my friend. I asked him, “When you look in the mirror, what do you see?” He responded immediately, “I see ME!” I said to him, “not true. You see a reflection of you.” He rolled his eyes as he felt I was ‘setting him up’ for something. I asked him if I were right. “Do you see YOU or do you see a reflection of you when you look in the mirror?” He eventually agreed that he sees a reflection. So I asked him, “how can it be authentically YOU if what you see is a reflection?” He reluctantly responded, “it’s not me. I guess.” So I asked him, “who is the authentic you then if what you see is a reflection?” His answer, “I have NO idea, but I’m sure you will lecture me about who I really am.”

The following is what I shared with him.

We are essentially the life-force that resides within our bodies. Some refer to this as the soul. The soul animates the body. The energy that is our soul is a powerful force designed to manifest desire in a material world. In other words, realize, create and manifest. We are perpetual creators and our creations are formed and based on our thoughts and desires. This is the authenticity of our being.

My friend and I went on to have the most profound conversation after that for the next 2 hours. But what I offer you today is, when we can understand the authenticity of our being, we realize we are empowered to design, create, author and tailor our existence. We, as powerful, spiritual creators, have the ability to perpetuate God’s creation in our material existence. This is our purpose. Regardless of your appearance, your education, your socioeconomic status, your job title or any other label you identify with…the AUTHENTIC you operates from a place of zero boundary and infinite possibility. THAT is the you that is waiting…patiently…to be discovered. The authentic you. The you that commands circumstance based on thought and innermost desire. Discover the authentic you. And make the impact on your reality that you desire most. Contemplate your desires. Focus on them without boundary or limitation. Visualize yourself operating within those desires. Expect them, without doubt, to be manifested. And then…step into your new reality. This is the authenticity of your being.

Change Your Perspective, Change the World

You can never EVER change anything or anyone by trying to change the external effect.  When someone is behaving in a way that makes you uncomfortable (angry, disappointed, bitter, resentful, fearful, anxious, etc. etc.) the change must come from you!  You should never look/expect someone to change their behavior in order for you to feel better.  Recently, President Trump caused a major stir with his alliance to Russian leader Vladimir Putin.  People have been in an uproar, voicing opinions, stating matters of fact, and expressing their concern and more so their disdain over his perspective and actions.  In essence, people desire Trump to behave differently, more in line with the way they believe he should behave, so that they can feel better.  And this is no different than anything or anybody else.  Your children behave in ways that make you uncomfortable.  Your boss behaves in ways undesirable to you.  Your spouse is not acting in accordance with agreement you two have set up.  The police are misbehaving in ways that are life threatening.  So on and so on.
Two weeks ago, we talked about how we do not have to let what is, be our dominant vibration. We discussed how we have the ability to turn our awareness in the direction of what we want and give less attention to what we don’t want. We talked about having the ability to be solution oriented in the middle of a so-called problem; and having the ability to find something to appreciate in what seems impossible to appreciate. We always have a choice!  The choice is, do I lean in the direction of my inner being, or do I lean in the opposite direction of my inner being.  You can tell what direction you’re leaning in by the discomfort you feel.
Complaining about Donald Trump, and his given right to his perspective, is exactly the vibration that helped put him in office in the first place.  FACT: The more you and I complain, the more we ask for more of the same.   “We give up our power not just by observing by what we’re seeing, but more so by what we’re aware of. Our awareness of what is. Our opinion of why what is, is and what should be done about what is. Our conversations about what is. Our disappointment about what is, and what we secretly harbor in our hearts regarding what is. This observation and awareness of a perceived reality, whatever it may be, trains us into a frequency that doesn’t allow what is, to ever shift into what is wanted.” (Did You Forget, Align To Enlighten)
If you want something to change, even the behavior of another, it requires two things and two things only:
1). An acknowledgment of the desired and wanted new behavior.  If someone is behaving in a way that makes you uncomfortable, think about how you WANT to feel.
2). Hold that thought.  That’s it!  When you ask for something, it is given.  Even if the asking involves someone altering their behavior.  Because what you’re really wanting is to feel better regarding your observation.
When single minded consciousness is matched with mass consciousness is when we see world change.  Your job, my job is to talk about, provide opinions on, write about, and sustain thoughts of WHAT IT IS WE WANT!  It’s hard because it’s simple.  It doesn’t seem like it’s the answer because in our action-oriented world we are taught that nothing happens without physical action.  And although we are not advocates of eliminating action, goals, movement, etc., we adamantly recognize that the true power comes from vibrational output.  The true power to change an environment lies internally within you and I.  Whenever the mind perceives, it creates!  You and I are living realities that we’ve created including this state of America and its leadership.  The beauty of this fact is that we also have the conscious creative power to create a new and different deliberate realty- one that we desire.  But will we, or will we choose to keep what we have?

Time Is An Illusion

  The idea of time is a man-made constraint designed to help our minds receive information, process that information and interpret that information in order to direct our physical decisions. Time is indeed helpful because it helps keep things on track with what we want to achieve and accomplish. But at the core of our being…our soul…time and space do not exist. Time is meant to direct our consciousness, not define our existence.

Our existence is not dependent upon time. Our existence is dependent upon awareness. Our souls are complete awareness. Consciousness. Authenticity. Life. Pure Existence. The body can not operate without a soul. However, the soul CAN operate independent of the body. Why? Because the body has an expiration date while the soul does not. The soul animates the body. For a time. (pun intended)

Most all religions subscribe to some type of existence after our bodies “expire.” Usually that existence is characterized as an ever-lasting paradise. This also suggests that time is relevant, only to this world. But not the world after it because there is no clock on forever. Yet, we offer all authority to time here on earth as if it is our master. As if time has some type of ruling authority over our authentic existence. We become slaves to it. We beg for more of it. Or we wish it would pass along faster. It seems to be fleeting and for that reason, we have angst, worry or concern about it. But time…is an illusion.

Granted, we see the earth rotate around the sun calling it “sun rise and sun set,” we see the days pass, the seasons change and the years go by. Our days run together as we fill them with school, work, to-do lists and deadlines. Our existence becomes numb. Then we bide our time and try to harness it when we consider the weekend or vacation with long, lazy days of nothingness or various fun activities. And when that time is up…we become saddened or return to our “Monday Melancholy” because we have surrendered the power of our emotion to depending on what was happening for a period of time.

We reminisce on the past or we carry optimism for the future. But authentic reality suggests…time is a simple illusion and what is authentically true is this moment. The awareness of our brains are in the moment. We can dream about the future. We can access memories of the past. But we can not physically embrace either. This is the connection most of us are missing when we offer time all the power in our lives. We have no command over what we felt from the past. We have no command of what we will feel in the future. We command only the moment in which we reside. Physically, mentally and spiritually. Therefore, time is only a concept, a notion, an idea…an illusion because it is not real.

We FEEL as if “being busy at work makes the time go by faster.” Or we FEEL “the weekends go by too quickly.” Or we may FEEL “there’s never enough time to get things done.” Or sometimes in the midst of things that are unpleasant, “time stands still.” In the essence of how we have defined time, it is consistent. Nothing has changed. :60 seconds equals 1 minute. Period. Yet, we can all relate to the previous comments. Why? Because we are caught up in the illusion of time and we are not focused on the authenticity of the moment. The moment is consistent and forever present. The past is a memory. The future is an idea. The moment is real. The moment is where actual living is taking place. Someone said, “the moment is a gift from God and that’s why it is called the present.” The moment is where we have all the power to exercise and create our desired outcomes. The moment is where happiness, joy, peace and fulfillment live. What we have felt in the past are moments we conjure through memory. We have zero control over that “time” because it has past. Our thoughts of the future are unborn ideas. But we don’t control or dictate all of the circumstances and variables that will influence those thoughts of when that future arrives. Therefore, the future is a simple idea. Not a tangible reality. Operating within THIS moment, being in THIS moment, focusing your awareness of THIS moment allows us to decide and to create and to manifest and to realize our deepest desires. Our desires of peace…choose it in the moment you are in. Our desires of happiness…choose it while in the moment. Our desires of prosperity…choose it in the moment. And for the record, prosperity and wealth is a state of being. Not a state of passing materialism.

All that we desire…begins with an awareness of that desire in the current moment we are living. If you desire peace, love, tranquility, compassion, joy, happiness, wealth, etc., become aware of the authentic you that transcends time and realize what you desire can be captured in the current moment you reside. Live in the right now.

Did You Forget?

Did you forget that you are the creator of you own reality?

Did you forget how it is that you create your own reality? By offering a vibration that the Law of Attraction is responding to? And that our thoughts are the mechanisms through which our vibrations are produced.

Did you forget that you have control over the vibration that you offer? And that by this vibrational control, you thus influence and control what comes to you?

We are vibrational, energetic, spiritual beings that have immense power. More often than not, this power is untapped and unrealized. Living in an environment where everybody is simply observing and responding, we’ve trained ourselves to do the same- observe and respond. So that quickly we become observers and responders of reality, not creators. We give up our power and turn it over to what we’re observing. We give up our power not just by observing by what we’re seeing, but more so by what we’re aware of. Our awareness of what is. Our opinion of why what is, is and what should be done about what is. Our conversations about what is. Our disappointment about what is, and what we secretly harbor in our hearts regarding what is. This observation and awareness of a perceived reality, whatever it may be, trains us into a frequency that doesn’t allow what is, to ever shift into what is wanted. (Assuming that what you’re observing and what you want is different). If what you’re observing is what you want, then all that is needed is to appreciate and stay in gratitude, be thankful, and acknowledge, for more of the same to come. But if your awareness of what you’re observing is not what you want, then talking about it, thinking about it, complaining about it, lamenting and stewing over it, only enhances and exacerbates more of the same unwanted awareness. You do not have to let what is, be your dominant vibration.

Have you forgotten the Powerful Creator you are?

Did you forget that you create your own reality?

Do you remember how it is you create your own reality?

We do not have to let what is, be our dominant vibration. We have the ability to focus our attention. We have the ability to turn our awareness in the direction of what we want and give less attention to what we don’t want. We have the ability to be solution oriented in the middle of a so-called problem. We have the ability to find something to appreciate in what seems impossible to appreciate. This is the exercise! This is how you sharpen your skills at becoming a deliberate creator and exercising the power you’ve been given to change an existing reality and/or create a new one.

We’re never suggesting to run or avoid from anything life presents you that must be dealt with. You can’t always remove yourself or put your head in the sand when issues occur. But what we are suggesting is that you have the ability to be more of a vibrational match to a solution while being aware and standing right in the middle of the problem. You are completely responsible for any and all that is happening in your experience. Everything that comes to you is a result of your vibrational offering.

Remember you are the creator of your experience because you are the focuser of your world. Remember you create your world through your vibrational offering. Remember that the Law of Attraction is responding to your vibrational offering, and thus everything comes back to you from what your point of attraction is.

What’s Below the Surface?

  Going through our day to day lives, it is very easy to get caught up in the things that are happening and pull them into our experience. We get cut off in traffic, someone doesn’t say thank you, the President says something incendiary, your boss pisses you off, etc. It’s easy to get caught up in bills being overdue, not being able to “get ahead,” having a mentality of “grinding it out” all while creating our reality at the surface of life. But is that it? Is our life made up of work, bills, current events in politics and dependencies on things or other people to make us happy? Is that our purpose? To live from the surface of life? What’s below the surface? Or do we even have time to explore? Are we too busy with our faces buried in our phones, oblivious to what is actually happening around us? Are we too busy measuring the amount of “likes” on the selfie we just uploaded to Facebook or Instagram looking for happiness but yet are disappointed when the responses don’t come back the way we desired? Are we too busy being emotionally enraged because of whatever the hot political topic is for the day, that doesn’t line up with our beliefs, to decide and define for ourselves what happiness, joy, peace and contentment actually mean? Are we too busy searching for a “savior” to validate our existence instead of being our own savior and creating the reality we want for ourselves? In the past, we have certainly seen great leaders that people made to be saviors, such as Dr. Martin Luther King Jr., Mahatma Gandhi, Mother Theresa, etc. But the one thing we tend to not see is…these people…lived below the surface.

Align to Enlighten’s very first blog post from more than 3 years ago was entitled, Escaping the Matrix. Recalling the actual movie, The Matrix, there was a false reality that people assimilated to and lived it as authentic. But the true reality was not at the surface, but was below it. There was something deeper than what the characters were living at the surface. This is not dissimilar to what we live today. The fundamental understanding we are offering here is, EVERYTHING we see with our physical eyes is a reflection of someone’s fulfilled desire. But it’s not necessarily your own. If one does not LIKE the reality one sees…one has the ability and the power to change it. “The Matrix” has tricked most into believing this is not possible. Therefore we must go along with what we see and name it truth. This creates a feeling of disempowerment which in turn morphs into anger, resentment and a feeling of powerlessness. Is this not the premise of the movie??? Create a sense of powerlessness so control can be maintained?

Our current day “matrix” is the facade of power we give to our government, the authority we give to money & finances, the way we allow current events to mold, shape and guild our emotion and perspective. We operate as puppets being directed in a story line that is not our own. Why? Because we are living on the surface of life. Kanye West says “slavery seems like it was a choice.” His point was not so much that slavery was a choice for black people in America. But it became a belief that they did not have power and thus a reality that perpetuated itself for 400 years. For many people, this was inflammatory and unacceptable. We are emotionally invested in what he said. Same goes for when someone says, “Black Lives Matter,” or Trump says, any number of things on any given day, and the media creates the platform to support disunity, chaos, destruction and mayhem. Then, we stay glued to the television, we stay emotionally invested, we can’t seem to look away from the train wreck happening in slow motion. We are addicted to the drama of it all and call it reality. How else do we explain the enormous popularity of any of the “Desperate Housewives Series?” And that goes for any of the shows like that. It goes for the news. It goes for any of the propaganda that supports disunity, chaos, disempowerment and dysfunction. If any person, any entity, any level of power can foster these things over masses of people, those said people can be manipulated and controlled. i.e. puppets

Cutting the strings of the puppeteer is not hard to do. It simply starts with questioning what is actually “real” for YOU and for YOUR life. The part of the Kanye West interview that was NOT shown was what he said in regards to how he feels about Trump, “if we all continue to simply say ‘F! YOU! F YOU! F YOU!’ and choose not to hear or understand another’s point of view, then how can we move forward in anything?” So think for a second about one of the many influential people in our history that effectuated major societal change. If Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. had lead protests for Civil Rights but led with “F YOU! F YOU! F YOU!” how far do you think that would have gone? Instead, he sat with America’s leaders and had discussions. Calmly. And as a matter-of-fact in his demeanor without the catalyst of anger, resentment or powerlessness. He operated below the surface of his life. Effectuating change starts by going below the surface of your emotion and searches for that authentic part of you that is love and is grounded in life’s desire and purpose.

Cutting the strings of the puppeteer starts with understanding that there IS a puppeteer in the first place. If one can create a desired emotion or reaction from a person, then that person has control over them. That person can guide and direct them to wherever they want them to go. And any person, entity or establishment that manages your emotion, is a puppeteer.  The puppeteer creates a false sense of power and a fallacy of reality that disempowers the puppet. But when we realize it is US as individuals who DECIDE how we perceive things and DECIDE how we choose to FEEL, the puppeteer loses all perceived power and the puppet is left to stand on his own.

Do not take what you see, what you read and what you hear as THE only truth and reality there is. There are layers to life. Dig deeper. Expect better. Create what you desire starting by focusing on your desire from within. The things you see happening outside of you are manifestations of someone else’s truth. YOUR truth is created by your desires, thoughts, intentions and attentions to that which you want. Don’t live on the surface of life. Live Below the Surface.

Navigating a Divisive America

  “Let passion fill your sails, but let reason be your rudder” – Khalil Gibran

This past week America acknowledged the 50th Anniversary of the assassination of Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. I don’t know if this was a celebration of his life or a mourning of his death. What I DO know is that it sparked questions among the African-American community as to if “things have gotten better in America since the Civil Rights Movement or have things gotten worse?” The concept of “better” or “worse” is relative to the individual person’s perspective. What we contend is that things have certainly changed. How we receive and perceive that change determines our understanding of “better” or “worse” in this context. One thing seems certain: perhaps due to the speed of technology, we are smack in the middle of a very divisive America. Whether it be racial relations, religion, politics, sexual orientation, diplomacy, etc. we are in a perceived divisive state. Everyone seems to be on a “side” of every issue and we seem to be willing to fight to the end to defend it. What is the basis of this behavior? What is the solution to the challenges we face? How do we handle Navigating a Divisive America?

In today’s times compared to the past, information, whether authentic or fake, travels extremely fast. And with today’s technology, we also have an immediate platform to respond and share our opinions, views and emotions with whatever is happening at that very moment. Unfortunately, this helps to perpetuate divisiveness because many believe their views are the sole truths to whatever the situation. The amount of emotion we offer in these divisive scenarios feeds the issues and therefore they grow. Our emotions feed the beast of discontent without solution. And we stand firm as if our opinion, our emotions, our views are the only ones that are actually valid and true. “I don’t care about your experience! I don’t care who you are! You don’t look like me. You don’t wear what I wear or listen to the same music. What you like is STUPID and what I like is REAL!” Why are we so matter-of-fact with life? As if we have everything figured out and there can be no other way, lest we ‘all die horribly.’ When did we become so resolute? And does that resolution serve to further our intentions or stifle them? The fact is, the resistance we offer, backed with the passionate emotion we feel, only fuels the very thing we don’t want. In other words, the more we focus on what it is we DON’T want, the more of that thing we invite into our life’s experience. This is a fact.  Therefore, “let passion fill your sails, but let reason be your rudder.” Reason.

A person walks into a school and kills 17 children. But we are literally “fighting to the death” about the right to bare arms. It’s not about taking away a person’s right to have a gun. It is about creating laws that protect against the type of weapons being manufactured and sold. So, at the very least, perhaps this helps slow down the number of bullets being shot, in an effort to mitigate mass murder. Reason. Illegal immigrants  perceptibly put a strain on resources in America. But it’s not about building a wall between us like my children do in their room when they are angry with each other. It’s about working together to build a better system that stops the illegal crossing and also working harder to document people correctly. Reason. A police officer shoots, beats or chokes an African-American to death. Black Lives Matter demonstrates and is considered a terrorist group. It’s not about perpetuating the violence. It’s about acknowledging and embracing the unconscious and sometimes prevalent bias some officers have towards people of color first. And suggesting use of any of the other several methods police have at their disposal BEFORE pulling your service weapon and murdering someone. i.e. taser, nightstick, stun gun, pepper spray, rubber bullets, your partner, etc. Reason.

But everyone has their opinion on these issues that divide America. And everyone has the right to feel exactly what they choose to feel. This is one of the tenets America was built on. Yet, based on today’s divisive America, we seem to have forgotten this. And therein lies the breakdown in our communication…making our situation in America that much more divisive. Isn’t it ironic? Isn’t it ironic that this country was supposed to be built on the celebration of different cultures, backgrounds and religions? Yet, we are one of THE most intolerable countries in the world. “I don’t like you because you’re Muslim, you’re black, you’re gay, you’re a woman, you’re a Jew, you’re poor…” Our lack of understanding and appreciation and the fervor we carry regarding who we are and what we believe will cause us to lose the very things we are fighting SO hard to protect. Being open and understanding allows for growth instead of stagnation. There is no need to think or believe that when we open ourselves up for understanding and appreciation that what WE believe will be diminished in any way.

This past week we were marketing our book, From Alignment to Enlightenment – The Path to Joy & Peace, on Social Media. The ad went out to about 5,000 people and many of them engaged in some type of way via “likes” and/or comments. The book touts spiritual empowerment: finding purpose, identifying limiting beliefs, creating the reality you desire, etc. One gentleman’s comment was “Thanks anyways…Jesus is my author and finisher of my story…everlasting life!” We responded to the man’s comment with a “like” of our own. What struck me funny and the thought that came to mind was, “does he feel his religion or religious beliefs will be threatened or diminished because he reads a book about finding peace and joy that is not based in Christian belief?” And if so, “are your beliefs built on that shaky of ground to where you need to reaffirm you are ‘okay’ by making that comment?”

It seems that many people in today’s divisive America demonstrate the same insecure behavior on several topics. People are insecure in their political beliefs… racial bias beliefs…community beliefs…work beliefs…religious beliefs…socioeconomic beliefs…and seem to be prepared to fight to the finish to defend them. If someone else has a differing opinion, different experience, different view or different understanding there is no reason to allow insecurities to overwhelm you to stand up and fight to the death for what you believe. And imagine an America where our varying beliefs actually having commonalities or even supporting or complimenting our core beliefs. Reason. Understand…our individual beliefs are never in competition with someone else’s beliefs. There is no trophy at the end of an opinion-based contest. So why give it that energy? In fact, the more energy given to those types of scenarios only serve to feed them and the situations continue to perpetuate themselves. Instead of inviting chaos into your world…invite peace.

A Few Keys to Navigating a Divisive America

  • Be Confident in Who YOU Are and What YOU Believe. No person on this earth has control over you. And especially no person’s beliefs have power over you. The same as your beliefs can’t control another person’s actions. Accepting and acknowledging this fact will help you live more stress free. Why? BECAUSE YOU WILL REALIZE YOU CAN’T CONTROL THE WORLD! It’s not your job!
  • Be Open to Learn – Think back to when you were a child. Or think back to when your children were toddlers or young students in school. Learning was exciting! And the more we learned, the more confident we became. We felt good to learn and apply something new. When you studied for an exam and got an A+ you felt a great sense of accomplishment. The issue is, many people see academic learning as a starting/stopping point after completion. The reality is…we never stop learning unless we DECIDE we know everything we need to know. Life can be so much more interesting when we remain open to learning. Learn about another culture. Learn about another religion, another race, creed or color. Learn as much as possible. Stop talking so much about yourself. And listen to someone else’s story.  Realize you don’t know it all.
  • Find Something Good in ALL Things – When we can find something good or learn to find something of value or appreciation in ALL things, it will be that much harder to hate it. And the funny thing about this wonderfully made Universe is, the more we find to appreciate, the more abundant our life experiences become. The more we find dissatisfaction and discontent in people and things, the more dissatisfaction and discontent is delivered into our lives.

Live life openly, welcoming positive experiences. Learn to navigate like the Captain you were born to be.



“How Did I Attract THAT?”

Disclaimer:  We realize this a very sensitive subject matter for most to comprehend and accept.  The concept can be very disheartening and contradicts everything we’ve been taught to believe most of our lives.

You don’t have to look far around to conclude that some things seem to be beyond our control – mass killings, cancer, robbery, car accidents (that wasn’t your fault), and on and on.

Do you believe you can influence your surroundings so that things happen for you? Or do you believe things happen mostly TO you?  This is a critical question to ask and answer!

Let’s be clear.  Sometimes really bad things happen.  Sometimes, things just suck!  And certainly, it may appear that somethings that happen in our lives and in the world we live in appear to happen to us and not for our benefits.  However, this simply is not the case.

Everybody always says and mostly agrees that nothing happens by chance or happenstance, and that everything happens for a reason.  If this is true, what’s the reason, and if nothing happens by chance, then by what force are things occurring?

We live in an attraction-based world, an attraction-based Universe. There is no assertion!  Everything that comes to us, comes by way of our own point of attraction.  How do we know this for sure?  Can it be proven?   


Attraction is a Universal law/principle.  It is one of seven Universal principles that governs all. Attraction- the Law of Attraction, falls under the third universal law, the Law of Vibration.  The Law of Vibration states that “nothing rests; everything moves; everything vibrates”.  This is not theory but rather scientific fact that everything in this universe, including you and I, is energy, energy that vibrates at particular frequencies.  The higher the rate of frequency, the stronger the attracting power for other high frequencies.  The lower the frequency the stronger the attracting power for other low frequencies.   Place any solid object under a microscope and you’ll see movement.

Okay, so everything is energy producing a vibration, and when anything vibrates it produces a frequency right? This is similar to the vibrational waves of a tuning fork.  When you tap a tuning fork and place it in close proximity to another untapped tuning fork, the second fork will attempt to match the vibrational frequency of the first fork- AT THE SAME FREQUENCY.  The same holds true with a dog’s howl or a musical instrument that has such a high pitch that it shatters glass.  Frequencies have attraction force!  And human beings have the greatest attraction force of anything.

This same above principle also applies to the mental realm.  Your thoughts are but mere vibrations.  Every thought you consciously think or unconsciously hold, vibrates at a specific frequency and thus attracts other like thoughts and other like situations and circumstances.  Thoughts literally do turn into things.  Things within our Universe have a high tendency to migrate toward other like things. We’re using the word “things” here because this law encompasses thoughts, feelings, people, objects (yes objects) and everything else in our Universe.  It’s a principle that applies to all the things.

Like attracts like, and like migrates towards like. 

All this may be fine and dandy when it comes to attracting what’s wanted.  You attract an awesome new love, very easy to accept, and say “Yeah, I did that”.  You attract/manifest more money in your life, I did that!  But what about illness or death or suffering we see in the world?  How/why would one attract such things as that?  The answer is, we would not do so deliberately.  Our experiences come to us always either of two ways- intentionally or unintentionally; deliberately or by default.  We attract things unwanted, even illness or a seemingly bad occurrences by another individual by our lackadaisical, haphazard, willy-nilly thought patterns.

Fact:  You do not have to consciously think something in the moment to manifest the reality.  As a matter of fact, it is usually not the present thoughts you’re thinking that manifest your reality.  The thoughts we’re referring to that produce real life manifestations are more like the thought that behind the thoughts, or the parent/sponsoring thoughts.  And these thoughts have, over time, turned into beliefs.  So that when you look out into the world and consider any subject such as health, finance, relationships, life/death, race/racism, victimhood, etc., you have at any moment, a vibratory frequency that corresponds to that subject.  And the Universe is always attempting to match an experience with the corresponding frequency similar the one you’re vibrating.  This may manifest in number of ways, appearing as “out of the blue” or “just life” occurrences when they are not.   Think too much on a negative thing and watch how you will witness an experience of the same or similar negative proportion.  But moreover, HOW YOU FEEL on any given subject tells exactly how you’re vibrating and thus attracting real life experiences on that same subject.

So, if I leave my home today and get car jacked, it does not have to mean that I’ve been thinking thoughts about being carjacked (although consistently having those thoughts will sooner or later produce a like manifestation).  It means that I certainly have some sort of vibration surrounding victimhood, people being taken advantage of, crime in general, etc.  that is in disharmony with my inner being. And that my prevailing, dominant belief and thought pattern is being tended to by the powerful Universal Law of Attraction – like the tuning fork – the frequencies are attempting to match ( My Belief + My Expectation = Experience)

The Law of Vibration/Attraction is similar to the law of gravity.  It is immutable, and never changes.  Gravity is also an immutable and unchanging law of our Universe. Not believing in the law of gravity is not important — it will always be that things that go up also come down.  However, trusting and using the law of gravity allows you to predict and expect what will happen.  Likewise, it is with the Law of Attraction and vibration.  You don’t have to understand it or even agree completely, to use it effectively.  You can leverage your life and use it largely to your advantage and benefit.  Believing it’s true or untrue doesn’t change anything. It’s simply a Universal principle. But, if you choose to use it and get in tune with it, you can start predicting and expecting what happens to you, and for you. Your awareness of the Law of Attraction can have a tremendous effect in your life.

We would like to end this by stating that nothing “bad” that happens is the “fault” of the individual, and you/I never cause something unwanted to happen in our lives.  We must however, take full responsibility of our own vibrations, beliefs and thought patterns.  Doing so will provide leverage not only in your personal life but also have great impact and influence on the world at large.

There Is Only Order

Mind, Body and Soul – Separate but One…

Have you ever considered the totality of your being? Your looks, your personality, your sense of humor, your emotions, your strengths, your weaknesses, your vulnerabilities, your successes? We are so multi-faceted, the same as priceless diamonds. We are layers upon layers of complexity. And this is what makes us so very unique. So very special. And so very awesome! Have you stopped lately to recognize how awesome you are? How awesomely made you are? Have you stopped to appreciate the layers of your being? Have you stopped to truly LOVE yourself wholly, unconditionally, without limit or boundary just as you are? If not…then begin today. Stop. Right now. And reflect and be amazed at WHO you are for the person you are. Right now. Not the person you WANT to be. But the person you currently are. Why? Because this is the way you begin to get to where you actually want to go. By first appreciating you, for the YOU, you are right now.

But before we get too far into the Love Fest for Ourselves, let’s first understand the full make up of who we are. We are composed of three different components; Mind, Body and Soul. These three components operate independently, yet as one. Let’s explore them one by one and we will start with the body.

The Body:

The body is easy…right? It’s that handsome or beautiful creature we see when we look in the mirror. It’s that physical matter we put through the ringer with diets, exercise, fasting, beauty salons, massages, mani-pedies, etc. Our bodies are actually a simple reflection of our true selves. Our physical body allows our true selves to be manifested into physical form for others to see from their physical form. But our bodies are not who we TRULY are. Our bodies are just one form of who we are and is a reflection of our authentic being. Our bodies are wonderfully made by the Creator and we are full of regenerative powers. Every single day, we lose millions upon millions of cells in our bodies, only to be formed and created again, by our bodies! How awesome is that?!?!?

Our bodies allow us to receive information by way of our 5 senses; see, touch, hear, taste and smell. But what about intuition? Gut-feelings? The voices in our heads that tell us to turn right instead of left? Some say there is a sixth sense. This is evidence of the multiple layers that exist within each of us. The body is ONE component of our make up. But not all of it. Those voices, intuitions, gut-feelings are the whispers of our souls.

The Soul:

Our authentic selves speak softly, quietly and discreetly. With wisdom and understanding. In measured contemplation. This is the level of our soul. You know you are there when the calm you feel supercedes the noise of the outside world. Our souls provide clarity in the midst of confusion. The term soul and spirit are used interchangeably because they are one in the same. Unlike the body, the soul is not material but ethereal. The soul is representative of the authentic YOU. That part of you that is real. Our souls are eternal while our bodies perish daily. Our souls are only bound by the bodies that house them. Free from the body, the soul is limitless. Some refer to this as death. But in actuality a soul freed from its body is LIFE. It is important to understand and remember this because we often limit our possibilities by the boundaries of our bodies. We forget who we TRULY are and recognize the reflection in the mirror as our true selves. This is only partly true.

We are ALL spiritual beings FIRST. Remembering this fact helps us to realize and manifest our true, heartfelt desires. It begins from the inside. The seeds of growth, prosperity, success, well-being and even health for the body…ALL begin from the inside. From the level of the soul. We then see the manifestation of the seeds we’ve planted in our material world. This is the place where all things we see in this world begin. With a desire…with a thought and THEN a physical action. Remembering we are spiritual beings first…creates an understanding of life.

The Mind:

And THEN there’s the mind. My grandmother used to say, “the mind is the devil’s playground.” LOL…today, we offer, the mind is whatever you ALLOW the mind to be. YOU are the master of thought. YOU are the commander of emotion. YOU are the leader of manifestation in your life. But here’s how the mind works from a fundamental standpoint: The body receives information from the five senses. The soul knows the authentic truth in observing it all. The mind makes the balance between the two. The mind functions as a bridge between what we experience and what is REAL.

“What we experience and what is real:” Every experience, every encounter, every interaction…all that happens only has the meaning we apply to it. The mind is the facilitator of that understanding. We choose to levy meaning against experiences we consider “bad” and those we consider “good.” This doesn’t suggest we throw out how we’ve been socialized, how bodily harm feels or any other type of ridiculousness. What this means is, we have the ability to CHOOSE how we want ANY circumstance to affect us for any prolonged period of time.

If I get a flat tire on my way to work and I DECIDE that this is going to ruin my day. At that very moment, the thoughts in my mind begin manifesting. Next, after my tire, I get to work and my boss yells at me, my wife calls and is angry about something, my project falls through, I get “bad news” from my mom, I almost get into an accident on the way home…etc. It continues. It goes on and on. Why? Because you DECIDED it to be.

An alternative would be: I get a flat tire and I DECIDE, this is a welcome disruption to my day because it happened for a reason. Perhaps it slowed me down enough to miss an impending accident that was going to happen. Perhaps someone else was meant to stop and help me and then I end up having a great conversation that they are inspired by. The point is, when we understand that we are the masters of thought, the commanders of emotion and the leaders of manifestation…the thoughts created in our minds begin to work FOR us as opposed to against us.

The Conclusion:

Cater to EVERY part of you. LOVE every part of you. Nurture every part of your being, every part of your existence. Too much focus on any part and not enough on the other keeps you out of alignment. Keeps you out of balance with who you truly are. All parts of you need focus and attention. You are your Mind, your Body and your Soul.

Year End – Renewing Your Spirit

“You can’t go back and make a brand-new start, but anyone can start right now and make a brand-new ending” – James R. Sherman

This is the final day of 2017. For many people this is a time to reflect back on what has happened over the past 364 days. Some of those reflections bring smiles while other reflections bring sorrows. Many of us look forward to the new year as a new beginning. A clean slate. A renewing of our minds, bodies and souls. We plan accordingly and create New Year’s Resolutions. We look to create a new reality. JUST AS WE ALL SHOULD. That new reality is fueled by what we desire, our intentions, our goals, our objectives to create a renewed existence. And it feels GREAT! It feels delightful. It feels refreshing. It feels like a new beginning. It feels like ALL things are possible! You feel boundless. Determined. We revel at the opportunities we will create and the new reality we will live. This is the Renewing of the Spirit.

The Renewing of the Spirit is a cleansing of our souls. It is a purging of negativity, dead weight (literally), and all of those things we feel have held back the reality we desire. We NEED this to live our best lives. It is no different than doing Spring Cleaning in your home. Many of us do a deep cleaning, get rid of old papers, clean out closets, give away old clothes, etc. in the Spring time. This is the same with the renewing of our spirits. We purge and then create new expectations that align with our desires. We desire to lose weight, be better people, spend more time with loved ones, appreciate what we have, love more, etc. We desire to be transformed. No different than the caterpillar emerging from its cocoon to sprout wings as the butterfly. It opens up a brand new opportunity to fulfill who and what we desire to be, what we desire to have and how we desire to be remembered. The Renewing of Your Spirit.

What we want to offer you today is a road map to staying on track and in alignment with that which you desire as you go into the new year. Have you ever set New Year’s Resolutions in the first of January but forget about them before March? The plan was to lose 20 lbs. by the end of the year but that all seems to go by the wayside somewhere along the way? Or you wanted to be a nicer person at work but after the new year has “worn off” you’re back to the same ornery person you were before? You were going to have a new, more positive outlook on life but so-and-so made you mad and “affirmed” what you knew all along so “what’s the purpose?” There are three main reasons why the resolutions we set become unsuccessful and/or unrealized:

  1. They are too lofty
  2. We set too many resolutions
  3. They are too far into the future

Too Lofty – Perhaps you want to be debt free by the end of 2018 but you have $40,000 worth of debt. This is not to say it’s not possible to become debt free. (At Align to Enlighten we KNOW and BELIEVE whatever we conceive we can create) But it’s more to it than just “hoping” for it to happen. Defining a clear goal is primary. But when looking to achieve that goal, it is IMPERATIVE to maintain your vibrational alignment with your expectations. Continue to believe, continue to expect AND take physical action to stay on track with what you desire. This goes for any resolution you’ve set.

Too Many Resolutions – While we may consider ourselves to be “flawed,” the authentic reality is, we are made perfect for exactly who we are. Sometimes, in an effort to try to be perfect in our own eyes, we create several resolutions as if we need a complete human makeover. So as you go into 2018, we encourage you to lose the harsh judgment on yourselves. Give yourself a break. LOVE on yourself for EXACTLY who you are. If you plan to create resolutions for the new year, don’t exhaust the list over two pages of things you want and will do. Narrow it down to say 3 things you want to accomplish overall. This will make it more manageable for you throughout the year. And once you accomplish those 3 things, feel free to pick another 3 IF you desire. But love yourself without judgment.

They Are Too Far Into the Future – Some resolutions will take time. That’s a fact. But we live in a “microwave society,” meaning we have been socialized to expect instant gratification. We want it and we want it NOW! This type of thinking sabotages resolutions we’ve created that will take time. Slow down and be in the moment. Be in the here and now of life. Create the goals, objectives and resolutions, but also understand this life is a marathon and not a sprint. Slow down and let them cook slowly instead of nuking your resolutions for a quick fix to your heartfelt desires.

To make your resolutions more manageable, we suggest taking “small bites” in order to manifest what your truly desire. The Renewing of Your Spirit should not be a once-a-year event. It should happen frequently. This will be the way to co-create with the Creator and manifest the reality you desire. So as you set out to begin your new year with all of the things you want to achieve and accomplish, we suggest you take the following approach to renew your spirit…weekly:

Sunday – Take time to remember what your overall objectives are on the year. Losing weight, being a better person, spreading love, starting your own business, whatever you planned to do for 2018, spend time thinking about it. Meditate on it. Envision what it looks like.

Monday – Take at least 5-10 minutes and meditate. Clear your mind. Cleanse your soul of negativity. Envision your resolutions and your goals. Write down what you will do this week to achieve what you desire. Pick 1-3 steps and that’s it. These steps should be able to be accomplished during this week. Remember…small bites.

Tuesday – Take at least 5-10 minutes and meditate. Be at peace with yourself. Explore your gratitude for what you’ve chosen to accomplish. Begin to do the things you wrote down on Monday that you want to accomplish this week.

Wednesday – Take at least 5-10 minutes and meditate. While you are meditating, continue envisioning what your end goal looks like. FEEL what it looks like. FEEL how it will make you feel once you get there. THIS is a continual renewing of your spirit. Now, continue to take steps to accomplish what you wrote down on Monday.

Thursday – Take at least 5-10 minutes and meditate. Create the expectation of accomplishment in your mind. Expect to achieve the 1-3 steps you wrote down on Monday. If you have already completed your 1-3 steps, don’t jump ahead! Simply continue with your vision and expectation of the larger goal. If you haven’t completed your weekly steps yet, push forward and challenge yourself to stay on track. Or reassess what you committed to for the week. Do your steps need to be adjusted? If so, lose judgement and adjust accordingly.

Friday – Take at least 5-10 minutes and meditate. Allow yourself to FEEL a sense of accomplishment for completing the steps you started for the week. BE CAREFUL: Don’t get too high on feeling accomplished and don’t get too low if you haven’t completed what you started. Simply be. If you completed your steps for the week, allow yourself to feel grateful. If you have not, do not beat yourself up, but be resolved to be committed in the upcoming week.

Saturday – Take at least 5-10 minutes and meditate. Relax. Get centered. Put your goals, objectives and resolutions on the back burner and allow yourself to rest. Don’t give them any overall thoughts. Just be. And on Sunday…begin the process again.

Resolutions are GREAT as they represent a renewing of our souls and we create a space for creation to manifest. But to be successful in the manifestation of your desire…choose to Renew Your Spirit on a frequent basis. Once every 365 days sets us up for failure. Love yourself without judgement and renew your spirit often. This way, you will achieve your heart’s desires and manifest the reality you dream about. Have a blessed and prosperous 2018. With LOVE from Align to Enlighten. Namaste

Week 52 – Creating Your Own Miracles

Today’s post stems from a conversation held earlier this week regarding blessings and luck, the major differences between the two, and how to create your own blessings.  In the conversation, we were discussing the terms “luck” versus “blessings.”  The obvious difference being that blessings are believed to come from a higher power or source while luck is usually thought to be merely happenstance or a chance occurrence of something happening.  We say, “Wow, what a blessing, you survived cancer.”  And we also at times say, “Wow, she’s so lucky, she won the million dollar jackpot.”  We tend to attribute “blessings” towards things that are more serious, like life/death experiences, landing the job you wanted when things were tight, etc.  While we lend luck to more frivolous things like a ball dropping through the hoop after it danced around the rim of the basket for a last minute score, or finding money on the ground that you really didn’t need, or pulling the ace of spades in a card game, and so on.  We tend to shun away from using the word luck as if it has some blasphemous connotation.  When a football kicker kicks the ball and it hits the upright and then deflects inside the upright and a score happens – is that a blessing or luck or simply good fortune?  Either way you see it, maybe we can all agree that with either of these terms, you’re put in a better position than you were previous be it luck, blessing, or good fortune.  But what we want to discuss today takes it a little further – we would like to discuss Creating Your Own Miracles.

“There are only two ways to live your life:  One is as though nothing is a miracle.  The other is as though everything is a miracle.”  — Albert Einstein

What is a Miracle?

The dictionary describes a miracle as “a surprising and welcome event that is not explicable by natural or scientific laws and is therefore considered to be the work of a divine agency.” When we think about a “miracle” happening we tend to look at an occurrence that stems beyond a blessing and certainly deeper than good fortune or luck.  A miracle is something that by all odds, was not supposed to happen.  It seems impossible to happen, then it happens.   When something miraculous takes place it is usually unexplainable, unexpected, and unanticipated.  It falls into the realm of the divine and oftentimes we simply say “Praise God.” So we don’t usually think of miracles as being able to happen every day in our lives. But they can!

What would constitute a miracle in your life? Think about it for a second.  What is it right now, at this very second, that would fall into the realm of a miracle for you?  More money, 100 pound weight loss, debt-free, a new career, cancer-free, world peace?  What would do it for you?

I only use sports as an analogy because it’s easy and relatable. But it amazes me how two sports teams can pray the sincerest, earnest prayer to God to beat the other team.  And then it comes down to the wire, score tied, and one team does something that by all standards seems to be a fluke (football hitting the upright, basketball goes in on impossible odds, the golfer hits a hole-in-one from an impossible distance).  Can these be considered miracles?

Of course we use the term miracle loosely at times, like being able to comfortably fit into that suit you’ve had for 15 years that you thought was too tight for you, or we discover the job of our dreams we didn’t know existed, or the vet tells us there’s an effective affordable treatment for our ailing dog.  IT’S A MIRACLE!!!  But even as minute as all this is on the grand scheme of things it doesn’t discount the wonder and marvel we feel.  Remember the definition of a miracle as a surprising and welcome event that is not explicable by natural or scientific laws.

How can you create your own miracle? 

So the question becomes do we have any influence and impact on our miracle occurrences?  Can we increase the chances (if you will) of receiving a blessing?  Does it come from righteous behavior, prayer, obedient sacrificing to a higher power, charitable contributions, etc?  The answer is simple. Your life can be filled with miracles EVERYDAY!

Here’s the understanding you must have.

  1. We are mostly and primarily spiritual beings. You are not your body or your emotions or your mind. Our inner, spiritual-being is unlimited. Therefore, what you are is also unlimited. 
  2. Universal Law is impartial and unemotional. It will willingly gives you anything you believe in.
  3. This is an attraction based world and Universe we live in. Nothing comes to you except by your attraction to it- both desired and undesired- through the powerful thought based concept of Law of Attraction.  You attract what you focus your attention on.
  4. The biggest thing to know is that you have tremendous power within you that you can use whenever you choose to exercise it!

This being said.  How can you use the above understanding to create your own miracles?

First, believe that you in fact do have influence on your own miracles.  Moreover, you are the only influencer on your miracles.  You possess the greatest impact on your ability to have daily miracles occur in your life.  Start with this belief.

Second, write down on a piece of paper, in order of importance, the things and conditions you want. Do not let the mind “advise” you; it has limitations. Shoot for the moon, and be sure you leave nothing out. Chop and change your list until you are comfortable with it, but be clear about what you want. Use exact and precise wording to describe the conditions you require. Remember, the system (Universal Law) works, so you must be definite in the way you describe your wants. I would start with 1 to 3 things of desire.

Here is what you do: (1) Read your list three times a day — once when you rise, once in the middle of the day, and once before bed. (2) Meditate on your miracles from time to time, and KNOW that it has been received and is just about to deliver- EXPECT IT! (3) Maintain silence. Talking about your miracles dissipates the energy drastically. Therefore, you should not share your miracles with others until they happen. (4) Always act and think about your miracles as though you already have the conditions you desire.  This is the tough part because we’re only accustomed to feeling good when we have something to feel good about.  But when you can train yourself to put yourself in that feel good space BEFORE the miracle- the miracles will come.  (5) Be open and welcoming to communication from your inner inner-being as it instructs you in ways of getting what you want. Your heart’s desire can come from anywhere, so do not limit your field of expectation. Remain open and flexible at all times.

As we prepare to enter into a new year, let’s be miracle making power houses.  Lets’ no longer continue to let life just happen, creating by default.  Let’s start changing and creating our own realities and miracles with deliberate intent.


Week 51 – The 7 Keys of Life

 For a millennium people have discussed and pondered over ‘the secret of life.’ The true reality is, there are no secrets in life. Only that which we believe and that which we have forgotten. However, there are several ‘keys’ of life that can affect our authentic understanding of what life is, why we are here and what it is we are supposed to do while we are here. While there are many keys…today we will discuss 7.

  1. You Are A Spiritual Being – in many religions we are taught that we have a soul. And depending how we live in this life will determine the outcomes for our souls.  While Align to Enlighten does not debate religion, we would like to augment this understanding. We are spiritual beings FIRST and foremost, having a human experience, second. What we ‘see’ in the mirror is not WHO we are but a literal reflection of our being. The body is fragile, temporal and has limitations. Our souls are powerful, eternal and have no bounds. When we embrace the understanding of the fact that we are ALL spiritual beings FIRST, we become immediately empowered. At that point, we realize, race, sex, creed, color, nationality, etc. do not matter. When we operate from the space of the soul, we ‘see’ far beyond what our eyes are translating to our brains. “We are not human beings having a spiritual experience. We are spiritual beings having a human experience” – Pierre Teilhard de Chardin. The fundamental understanding of this first key sets the stage of life.
  2. Mindfulness through Meditation – This world, our lives are filled to the brim with ‘noise.’ Noise surrounds us and bombards our minds for the majority of our days creating what we consider to be reality. Noise from work, noise from technology, literal noise from the radio, television, iPads, cell phones, etc. And then there’s the ‘noise’ of our perceptions and how we interpret those perceptions and make them ‘reality.’ Building from the first key, it is important to remain mindful in the midst of the noise. It is imperative to get back to your ‘home base’ which is your soul. At the core of your being is stillness. At the core of your being is peace. At the core of your being is complete understanding. But often times, we get caught up in the ‘noise’ of life and it drowns out the stillness, peace and complete understanding of our true being. Meditation…allows us to find that peace, stillness and understanding. Meditation is communion and communication with your soul. The TRUE you. The TRUE you that is at peace at all times no matter the noise around you. Through meditation, you remember who you TRULY are and you are able to TRULY see your situations, circumstances and challenges for what they actually are as opposed to what the ‘noise’ is telling you they are. Meditate frequently to remain grounded in your true self.
  3. Manager of Your Perceptions – The 3rd key builds off the 2nd key. “The dream of life is really an illusion, and everybody lives in the reality he or she creates – a virtual reality that is only true for the one who creates it” – Miguel Ruiz. When we see or experience events such as a car accident, a tornado, a fire, etc. it’s obvious these things are very real to us. No question. But when we consider various situations and circumstances, especially in dealing with people, it is important to be that Manager of Your Perceptions. When we first understand WHO we truly are as spiritual beings where the core of who we are is peaceful, endearing, loving, compassionate, understanding, inviting, knowledgeable, etc. we put life’s everyday challenges into perspective. No individual event, situation or circumstance has ANY innate power over our natural being. They only have the power we assign to them. No more. No less. Therefore, as situations come up that seem to be challenging, DECIDE to step back, get quiet in meditation and reassess how you CHOOSE to perceive the situation as it is happening. The “reality” of the situation is whatever you DECIDE for it to be. This is how we become good Managers of Our Perceptions.
  4. Allowance and Resistance – There are ONLY two things when dealing in life…allowance and resistance. At a young age, especially in America, we are taught to hustle and muscle things into place. “No pain no gain.” We are taught there must be some type of force on our part to MAKE things happen. Ironically, it is this type of mentality that keeps us stuck. This Key of Life, and the next, go hand and hand but allow us to define allowance and resistance first through example. Let’s say you really want a promotion on your job, and you’ve been working really hard to get it. Disclaimer: We should all take physical action for the things that make common sense. But the more you try to force it to be…the more elusive it becomes. Why? Because through your force, you are offering resistance to your promotions’ manifestation. We are giving the resistance the power. Allowance says, “express your desire to God, Source, Jehovah the Universe, etc. and simply rest in that desire and allow it to happen.” Think about how you feel when you are trying to make something happen. You are tense. Your blood pressure may rise. You are restricted. When we are restricted, movement is restricted. Manifestation is stumped. Our desires are slowed. Allowance is finding your centering place, being grounded, being at peace and allowing your desires to flow freely. Things flow with ease when we focus our attention on allowance.
  5. Energy – The Law of Attraction – Every single thing in this world is vibrating energy. This is the way our eyes are able to see material things. Because these things are vibrating. Our world, our Universe is vibrating energy. And energy is attracted to like energy. Hence, The Law of Attraction. The energy we emit when we are in an allowance position, is positive and is aligned with our truest desires. This is how we turn thoughts into things. By allowing the energy to flow freely. “Everything is energy and that is all there is to it. Match the frequency of the reality you want and you can not help but get that reality. It can be no other way. This is not philosophy. This is physics” – Albert Einstein. Choosing the energy that dominates your everyday life, creates the current reality you experience. If you perpetually perceive Mondays as being ‘bad’…your energy will match that frequency…the Law of Attraction will deliver exactly what you created…’BAD’ MONDAYS. Choose the energy you want to emit to match the desire of your heart and you will create the reality you truly desire.
  6. Passion and Purpose – In conjunction with the previous Keys of Life mentioned here, think about what you may be passionate about. What is the ONE thing you would do 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, EVEN if you didn’t get paid to do it? What is that? Have you taken time from the ‘noise’ to figure that out? Have you allowed yourself to contemplate that? Or have you drowned out the notion because the ‘reality’ you have created says you must pay these bills and not focus on a ‘pipe dream?’ True reality says, “you were put here on this earth for a reason.” Remember, you are a spiritual being FIRST having a human experience second. Your passions are breadcrumbs along the trail of life that lead to your purpose.  Allow yourself to explore what those passions are, without boundary of your ‘noisy perceptions’ and you will begin to set out on discovering and then living within your life’s purpose.
  7. Create the World and the Reality You Desire – Everything…EVERY THING material that we see was once only a thought in someone’s head. Think about the iPhone 10 compared to rotary phones with cords from 30 years ago. Think about the Ford Model T compared to the all electric, luxury Tesla or big body Mercedes Benz of today. Think about the floor model black & white television with the nobs to change the channel to the 100″ curved screen, 4K televisions of today. EVERY THING material was once only a thought in someones mind. Do not discount the power of your imagination. Specifically to the desired reality for your life that is in your mind. YOU have the power to co-create worlds with God. If this were not true, God would not have blessed you with an imagination in the first place. WE perpetuate God’s creation through our imagination. All it takes is an understanding of who you truly are (Key #1), staying close to who you truly are (Key #2), not being affected by what we see as absolute reality (Key #3), recognizing and managing how we deal with situations through our allowance and resistance (Key #4), walking in the aligned energies of our desires (Key #5), searching for and embracing our passions with the understanding that they align with our life’s purpose (Key #6) and then leveraging our imagination to create the reality we truly desire (Key #7).

Live the life you desire to live. Not the life that is dictated to you by your situations, challenges or circumstances. You have the power to create whatever it is you desire. THIS is why God put you here…to perpetuate creation that is aligned with your purpose. These are the Keys of Life. Namaste

Week 50 – The Breaking Point

Does every human being have a breaking point? 

This question was posed to me this week from a very close friend of mine.  He asked if I thought that every human being had a breaking point.  My response to him was, it depends on what you call a “breaking point”.  He further clarified, that he meant giving up, no more fight, die, cease to exist, hopeless.

Needless to say I was taken aback.  Was this a cry for help?  Had my friend reached a point of no return in his mind?  He did not desire to communicate verbally with me over the phone and declined my offer to come to where he was to discuss his dilemma.  So we continued to exchange text messages until I felt he was in a safe place.

Which one of us has not been in this situation or one similar?  What does it mean when you find yourself saying—or thinking—”I can’t take this anymore.” We’ve all been there, but obviously these words don’t mean the same thing to every person.  It has always been intriguing to me how two people can respond to the exact same situation completely differently. People have different thresholds of what they can constructively withstand.  I get that.  And people reach their “breaking point” in different ways, according to their personalities, knowledge, and self-discipline. One person who balks under pressure may just stop responding entirely. Another person simmers, and then suddenly explodes. Everything depends on how you relate to stress, because reaching the breaking point happens when your ability to cope with stress breaks down, when you no longer feel you have what it takes to handle your current circumstance.

What is Stress? 

Alignment Alert!!!  Everything- EVERYTHING is always either about one of two things – allowance or resistance!  Anything that you’re currently going through, and anything that you will ever go through in the future is about your allowance or resistance-period. And it is the recognition and careful management of this truth that will empower you to successfully deal with stress as it arises.  Stress is resistance!

What is Resistance and What Am I Not Allowing?

When we use the terms “resistance” and “allowance” we’re talking about the resistance and /or allowance of well-being.  The natural way of this Universe is well-being.  When a cork is in the water it will naturally float until or unless something pulls it down.  Your natural way is to float!  Your own self-induced resistance is what pulls you under the water- always, 100% of the time, NO EXCEPTIONS!  And at any given point you and I are doing either one of the two. We’re either letting it in (allowing well-being) or we’re not (resisting well-being).   Stress is the disallowing or resisting of well-being.   And thank God that we’re given a tool from which to always be able to measure whether we are allowing or resisting well-being.  That tool is our own emotions and feelings – how we feel at any given moment is the primary indicator as to whether you’re allowing your cork to float or not.

So the question then becomes, why would I purposely offer resistance of my own well-being?  And the obvious answer is you would not “purposely” do that to yourself.  We all do this out of sheer ignorance.  We simply do not know we have the power and have not practiced consistently the art of alignment and allowance.  But once you know better, that you CAN change your reality literally at the drop of a dime, you now have complete control and influence over any and all circumstances and situations.

How Can I Tell if I Have Resistance?

The great thing about resistance is that it’s usually pretty obvious:  YOU FEEL ROTTEN!  But here’s the trick- there are levels of feeling rotten.  Sometimes you might feel just a wee bit “off” like you’re just not yourself, while other times you might be unbearably stressed, unhappy, or overwhelmed.  These are all shades of resistance in one form or another.  What happens usually is, when we feel that initial uneasiness, we tend to ignore it, and we don’t address resistance in the early stages.  So then it continues to manifest in larger degrees over time until we have no choice but to address it which sometimes results in a “breaking point” or at minimum, anxiety, depression, and other forms of negative energy.

Another sign of resistance is that nothing in your life seems to be going quite right.  Despite doing your best to focus on the great things you want to attract, there is very little movement and progress towards your true desires.  Even if you occasionally see some results, you still keep dipping back, in and out of an invisible set “point of attraction”.  You keep landing generally back where you’ve always been on certain subjects like money, relationships, health, and so on.  If you have been consistently working on any of these areas but can’t seem to get anywhere, the culprit is resistance.

How Can I Release Resistance and Start Allowing More?     

The answer to this question is simpler than you think.  Just stop doing the things that keep your cork from floating.  Stop offering resistance and you will naturally allow well-being.  Remember the natural flow of the Universe is Well-being.  So your job is only to practice letting it in.  and you can do that by trying these 3 things:

  1. Mediation, Mediation, Mediation. A consistent practice of mediation is key.  It doesn’t take long (a minimum of 15 minutes); first thing upon awakening for best results.  But the key is consistency.  Meditation puts you ahead of the game and allows you to release resistance before it ever even comes.  Just sit quietly every day for 5 minutes.
  2. Appreciation and Gratitude. When you feel some minimal resistance arising, immediately shift your focus and attention on something you appreciate.  No matter how small or how large.  Best practice is to choose something that is invaluable like the sunlight, fresh air, the beauty of nature, or anything like these.  Also, find something to be grateful for regarding the circumstance your in.  That’s right.  Look for a reason to appreciate something in the midst of the situation.  Appreciation automatically and instantly raises you vibration, as long as you don’t revert back to previous negative thoughts.
  3. Don’t focus on what is. Make it your deliberate intention, your primary purpose, your ultimate aim and mission, to release the attachment, fixation, and addiction on focusing on what is!  Of course, sometimes we do have to attend to things that are facing us head on at the moment.  But we should only focus on the current circumstance only as long as it takes to come up with a solution.  That’s it!  Then move on in the positive expectation that your current circumstance is now old news, because it is.  Focus your entire attention on what you want, and how you want the circumstance to be.  Create new “TRUTHS” in every area of your life – and change your powerful perceptions as a result.

While there is a preventive approach to releasing resistance which is pretty much what we’ve mentioned above.  There’s also a treatment approach which is what most people are forced to do, because they didn’t address the resistance early on or even before it started.  If you find yourself smack dab in the middle of the an overwhelming circumstance and you feel yourself reaching what might be a “breaking point” here’s what you do:

Don’t panic!   Nine times out of ten, the situation is not as dire as it’s being presented in the mind.  We tend to make circumstance and situations way worse than they need to be.  And even if it is really “bad”, panicking will not help, and will only worsen the situation.   When I find myself at a critical point, I like to use the acronym S.T.O.P– Stop what I’m doing immediately; Take a step back, and Take some deep breaths; Observe the situation or circumstance for what it is, no more, no less, and then Proceed from an aligned space of power.   After you do this, if you feel better and resistance free, fine, go on about your business. But understand that the circumstance has not gone anywhere and your negative emotions and feelings of powerlessness while often times resurface.  So this portion can be used for immediate circumstances, but then you most certainly will have to begin practicing the prior steps 1-3.

Once you learn to recognize the feeling of resistance, and once you know how to release it, your life will never be the same.  You will now know how to spend more of your time focusing purely on your heart’s desires you wish to attract, and they can manifest much more quickly and easily.  And most important – YOU WILL NEVER HAVE A BREAKING POINT EVER AGAIN!



Week 49 – Disempowering Disappointment

 First off, Align to Enlighten would like to say THANK YOU. We thank you for taking the time to read our blog posts, ask questions, leave comments and otherwise interact with our intended positive movement for humanity. As individuals, we are single drops of water. But collectively, we are an ocean of humanity. So, thank you.

For 2017 we’ve created themes for each month throughout this year in an effort to address life’s everyday challenges while offering positive insights and pragmatic solutions. In January our theme for the month was Accepting and Finding Comfort in YOU. We moved to February with A Conversation About Relationships and then March was Reclaiming Your Inspiration. We continued in April with The Power of Gratitude and Appreciation and followed that with Honoring Humanity in May. In June we touched on The Real Keys to Success in Life, July was Creating Abundance In Your Life and in August we tackled Adversity. In September we focused on Clarity. In October we delved deep into The Black and White of Racism and we just wrapped November on a very joyful note with, Learning to Live Happily Ever After. It’s been an amazing year to say the least. And we appreciate those of you who have traveled with us along this journey in 2017. For December, we want to close out the year with more of an open discussion. We speak to people throughout our days and we receive questions from people asking how to deal with certain things that come up. So during the month of December, we want to open this up to an overall conversation. December’s theme is December Discussions and is open to any and all topics. So if you have a question, want an answer, a specific topic, please feel free to “comment” and let us know. This week, we will kick things off with Dis-empowering Disappointment.

This week in the news Senate Republicans passed a sweeping tax bill that cuts taxes for Corporations and the wealthy but where does that leave the bulk of Americans? Matt Lauer was fired for sexual misconduct. Russel Simmons stepped down because of the same. We found out that slavery is alive in Libya. Kim Jong-un launched another missile which brings us that much closer to war. The list goes on and these things may spark concern, worry or disappointment, depending on who you are. But that’s happening in the outside world. What about the world that’s closer to home for you?

Your co-worker threw you under the bus. Your kids are not doing well in school. Your spouse completely let you down. Your business partner is not living up to what you thought she would be. Your pastor said something inappropriate or uncaring in the pulpit. You didn’t get the promotion you so hoped for. We are constantly surrounded by people, circumstances, situations and scenarios that do not live up to our expectations. We live in a world  where disappointment has taken up permanent residence.   Disappointment is that annoying relative or neighbor who shows up, unannounced, at the worst times. Disappointment is that unwanted guest. Disappointment intrudes on our otherwise happy day simply to rain on our parade. We are perpetually disappointed in people, in circumstances and in situations. But the question is, why are we? Answer: “Because I had my hopes up for xyz to happen and it didn’t!” Or “I’m disappointed because I EXPECTED so-and-so to not do me like that!” Or perhaps, “I’m let down because I had a ‘good thing’ going.” These things tend to affect our mood, our dispositions and our emotions. We begin to take on the weight of the disappointment. The more we embrace the disappointment, the heavier it becomes. The heavier it weighs on us. On our emotions. On our disposition. It truly and literally feels heavy. It becomes harder for us to dig out of it and get back to the happy and joyous disposition we love. So…WHAT…do…you…do to dis-empower disappointment? Change your perspective. Change your expectations.

“If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change” – Wayne Dyer

Every single person on earth has an individual perspective. This is vitally important to remember when dis-empowering disappointment within yourself, especially when being disappointed by people. Every person’s perspective is as unique as their fingerprint. So when they “let us down” it’s actually a reflection of your own unique perspective and expectation that is not being met. NOT the other person’s perspective or expectation. “So what does that mean? Are we not supposed to have expectations of people?” It doesn’t mean that at all. It means when people don’t respond or act the way you expect them to, change your perspective or expectation to match that of the person you are having this relationship with. It doesn’t mean you change what your perspective or expectations are of the situation. In other words, your wife disappoints you or let’s you down. For WHATEVER the reason. Simply know that your wife has her own set of perspectives and expectations. And they are not wrong. They belong to her. So accept that about her and adjust your perspective on how you will love her. It doesn’t mean she let you down so you stop loving her completely because your perspectives don’t align. When we understand this, we relieve ourselves of disappointment in people. Stop weighing them on YOUR scale. When you weigh someone on your personal scale, they will never stack up to your personal expectation. Why? Because each individual has their very own set of personal perspectives and expectations.

When considering situations or circumstances outside of people, but things that happen in everyday life that disappoint, consider this: situations and circumstances are not endowed with innate power. In other words, situations and circumstances alone carry no weight. The only weight they carry is the weight WE give them. No situation has the innate power to ruin your life. Let me provide an example. I know a man who worked in Corporate America. He attended a holiday party around this time of the year back in 2011. The man left the party, having exactly two drinks, crashed his car, killed a woman in doing so, tested positive for alcohol and was sentenced to 10 years in prison. The man was a successful mid-level manager, married with two children. He had a promising career. After several months of incarceration, the man and his wife made a decision. They made a decision that THIS would not be the end of their lives as individuals, as a couple or as a family. They decided to change their perspective regarding the situation and what they expected out of life. They chose to dis-empower disappointment! They chose to create a new reality and maintain their expectation of happiness with one another.

How we CHOOSE to manage disappointment empowers our lives. We can choose to let people, situations, circumstances, etc. have the power over us emotionally and spiritually, while commanding our dispositions. OR we can decide to be empowered regarding how we choose to see people, situations and circumstances and regain the power they are trying to take away from us. When we make the choice, at that moment, we have disengaged, debilitated and dis-empowered any type of disappointment.  And we have chosen to empower ourselves.

Week 48 – The Honeymoon Effect

Create heaven here on Earth while you live!

So this is week four of our theme this month of Learning to Live Happily Ever After.  Just to recap, we opened this dialogue by discussing how learning to live happily ever after is more about a state of being and not a destination, and that it takes practice.  We talked about how we create the enchanted world fairytales are made of by paying attention, being aware, and by finding joy and gratitude in the little things of life. In week two we described how learning to live happily ever after involves letting go of conditions you think you have to have in order to be happy.  We talked about how most importantly, living happily is inside, internal work.  Then last week we discussed sustaining happiness through alignment, and how living forever happy is about living deliberately in accordance with what you truly desire in life. For this, our fourth and final week, we want to provide a “how to” approach to living happily ever after.

Think about the moment in time when you felt the most exhilarating feeling you ever felt.  Remember that one event where it seemed time stopped, and for that moment nothing else mattered, I mean nothing.  The day or period in your life that you wished would never end.  Maybe it was your first child being born, graduating from high school or college, or perhaps it was the night of your honeymoon. For most, these are times of heartfelt bliss, enormous excitement, and abundant energy. Life was so beautiful that you couldn’t wait to jump out of bed in the morning to experience more.  The future was bright and filled with possibilities.  Imagine what our lives in this world would be like if we could maintain the “honeymoon effect” throughout our whole lives and is this even possible?

What happened that, the bliss we experienced during these episodes was so short lived? What happened that we lost our zeal and excitement?

Here’s exactly what happened.  Somebody convinced us that fairytales don’t come true.  Somebody convinced us that life was supposed to be a hard struggle and made us feel guilty about being happy, joyful, and at peace. Somebody told us, “if you’re not struggling, shame on you, life is supposed to be hard.” They made us believe that somehow if we were happy that something was wrong with us.

We here at Align to Enlighten are here to tell you – THEY LIED!!

Fairy-tales do come true, your honeymoon does not need to end, you CAN create heaven here on earth, and you CAN live happily ever after, right now!

So how do you do it, starting now, starting today?

  1. Decide for yourself that you in fact do desire to live a life of continuous happiness. Do this silently and aloud first thing in the morning upon waking, before you do anything else- affirm to yourself this affirmation:  “It is my dominant and deliberate intention everyday, no matter the circumstance or situation, to be happy.”  MAKE THE DECISION TO BE HAPPY EVERY DAY!  You do have a choice on being happy or not.  You get to decide whether you’re going to be happy every day of your life or whether you’re going to allow some-THING or some-BODY to be the reason for your unhappiness.
  2. Spend some time alone every day to connect with your inner self and to ask your higher power for guidance. You can call this meditation, ME-time, or whatever you choose.  The point is to take a minimum of 15 minutes (longer if you can) and sit in complete silence.
  3. Look for things to appreciate and be grateful for. These should be things that are priceless and don’t cost a dime.  Like the sunlight, fresh air, the beauty of nature, children’s play and laughter, etc.  Intentionally look and you will most certainly find.
  4. Determine your purpose! What are you in this human form to experience and to be? Look for as many opportunities as you can find to be of service to someone or something.  Find ways you can give more of yourself your family, to the community and world at large.  This will create a bliss of joy you couldn’t imagine.  We are made to serve one another and give and share love, and when you find ways to do so on a consistent basis, the happiness you’ll experience will be unmatched.

Learning to live happily ever after comes from inside. It’s all about YOU, no one else.  It’s about making the decision, and practicing daily, every day all throughout the day to be happy.  Making conscious choices with that main objective in mind.  Living happily ever after comes from knowing yourself, accepting yourself as you are, forgiving any perceived faults and living life on your terms, and particularly ON PURPOSE AND WITH PURPOSE!



Week 47 – Sustaining Your Happiness through Alignment –

 Have you ever been trying to live your “happily ever after” but someone seems to ALWAYS want to take it away from you? Have you ever been having a GREAT day, but someone wants to intrude on your joy and try to shut down your happiness? Does it seem like certain people simply “have it out for you” and look to try and take away what you are building??? Don’t we become frustrated with these types of people? Try to avoid them? Bristle up whenever we know they are coming around? Get “mentally prepared” for the drama? Get “physically prepared” for the battle that is inevitably coming? We are expecting there to be a “war” that will take us away from the happiness we are seeking to sustain. Why? Because we know this is how these people like to act. We ALL know people who seem to find their happiness in chaos. They seem to thrive on the drama of life. They don’t seem to be satisfied unless some “mess” is jumping off. We all know them. We may live with them. We may work with them. They may even be us…

So, in Learning to Live Happily Ever After, how do we avoid these people, so they don’t wreck our joy? How do we change these people, so we don’t have to continue with their drama? Or how do we make them stop? The answer is…we don’t. In Learning to Live Happily Ever After, we find alignment within ourselves first and foremost. We find alignment within ourselves first, middle and last. We find alignment within ourselves at ALL times, to determine the level of happiness we want to maintain. Determining your alignment is first about determining WHAT and HOW you WANT to feel. And then CHOOSING to feel that way. No matter the circumstance. This doesn’t mean that you suppress feelings and ignore circumstances as if they don’t exist. That’s silly. But what it means is, authentically “seeing” situations, circumstances, people, etc. for what they are and for who they are and then determining what effect, if any, you will allow them to have on what you set out to feel in the first place.

Often times, when we are faced with a cchallenginghallenging person or a challenging situation, we allow those things to affect our moods and our emotions. We (Align to Enlighten) would like to offer you this: Take in the situation, the challenge; feel what you feel when confronted with it, and immediately DECIDE how you WANT to feel next. The ONLY thing we control in this world…is how we choose to feel. And we can choose to change that feeling at the drop of a dime simply by how we choose to be aligned. Allow me to provide some examples…

If you have decided to be happy today. And your mate says or does something that angers you. The next decision you make is completely yours on how you decide to feel. Do you WANT to remain angry for the rest of the day? Or do you WANT to get back to the happiness you decided to feel in the first place? You are not so completely out of control of your emotions that you MUST remain upset for the rest of the day. You have complete control over the choices you make in deciding how you want to feel. However, sometimes it IS hard to flip back to being happy when someone has made you angry. And many times, it’s NOT a light switch that you can flip on and off. Our emotions do not work like that most times. Think of it more like a “dimming-switch” you have on your lights. You gradually turn the lights up to get them back to full illumination. One way, in this example of your mate making you angry, to do that is reach for a thought that gives you pleasure about your mate. In the midst of them making you angry and you deciding to CHOOSE to be happy, what one thing can you think of that you are grateful for regarding your mate? Ask yourself and then answer that question. Literally. In that moment, you have increased the light on your “dimming-switch” and a little more illumination has come over your emotions. Keep reaching for thoughts like that and you will find the light becomes increasingly brighter until you are back to the happiness you wanted in the first place. You will be back in alignment with your true desire…to be happy.

In the midst of tragedy, the same holds true. Heartache, pain, suffering, emotional turmoil…happen. But if/when it does, we don’t have to be emotionally bound and gagged by it. We don’t have to be a slave to the heartache, pain and suffering. It doesn’t mean you become immune and callous to what you feel. It means you become empowered to make a different emotional choice. If someone close to you passes away, if your home becomes flooded, if a fire destroys your belongings, whatever the case may be, remember the “dimming-switch” of your emotions. Purposefully seek a higher-feeling emotion in the midst of whatever is happening and CHOOSE to focus on that thing. Someone passes away…what are the fond memories that make you feel good at that moment? Your home becomes flooded…what can you look forward to in regards to what will happen next? Will insurance provide you with brand new carpeting? New floors? New paint? A fire destroys your belongings…look forward to creating new memories, new happiness and new nostalgia. It’s a “dimming-switch” to help you pull your emotion from darkness to light. And it simply takes one thought at a time. Create that thought that focusses on one small piece of happiness at a time. Then add another and focus on it. Then another and another and another. Until you have brought yourself back into alignment with your fundamental desire of happiness.

When Learning to Live Happily Ever After there is no pixy dust to sprinkle over your life. It doesn’t imply living some type of facade or fallacy. Learning to Live Happily Ever After is about living deliberately in accordance with what you truly desire in life. When we learn that the only thing we control is how we FEEL, we become empowered to direct the happiness in our lives…on command.

Week 46 – Living Happily WITHOUT Conditions

There are people today that are living in what would certainly be considered the best of times and they are utterly miserable, with no outside force doing anything to them. And there are those living in far worse circumstances that are joyful and thriving. How is this possible?  Because “thriving” or better yet living happily ever after is an inside job.

Living happily ever after, for some, is having all the success that you were born to have; and by success we mean alignment, joy, peace, clarity and everything that follows, which is everything you desire.  One important factor to all this is, understanding that you are a vibrational being first and foremost, and that the entire Universe too.  And to understand that the way you feel is vital to understanding what your vibrational output is.  The answer is learning to pay attention to the way you feel, thus controlling your vibrational output, to attract and extract more of what you want.

How do you figure that out?  By realizing that it is not about what is happening outside of you. It’s all about what’s happening inside. We’ve all heard others and have said ourselves things like, “it’s not about what happens to you, it’s about your reaction to what happened.” We say, “if you will start controlling the way you feel, then your reaction will be in your control too.” Then nothing in all of this Universe could do anything but support, soothe, and satisfy you.

We cannot discuss living happily ever after without taking into account unconditional love and unconditional living—Living a joyous life, and finding the peace and happiness you seek without needing any condition to be in place or out of place.   This is the exercise of life!

The standard of living happily ever after isn’t the things we acquire, the money we earn, the mate we have, or any other condition.  It is absolutely and unequivocally the amount of joy you feel.  The formula is so simple.  What you focus on you get more of.  That’s really it.  When you hone in, internally on that which brings you the most joy, you begin to attract more circumstances that make you joyful.   But it’s about the feeling!  The moment you decide to make it your overriding mission in life to live happily ever after based on how you feel, then you will experience a life beyond compare.

Alignment Alert:  You can’t put conditions on your being happy!  For example, a dollar amount.  Most people think that if they had just the right amount of money in the bank that they most certainly could and would be very, very happy.  And they would be correct.  Having disposable income and the freedom and flexibility it brings will undoubtedly add joy to your life.  But only temporarily. You wouldn’t have to worry about paying bills, wouldn’t have to be worried about budgeting so much, etc.  However, this would last as long as it takes for you to level out to where you were prior to the money.  If you require a certain amount of money before you are happy, you’re living a life based on satisfying a condition.  This is dangerous.  Because conditions always have the potential to change, and your sustained happiness, if based on conditions, will also fluctuate.  This type of living, based on not having enough, or lack, causes you to attract more of the same…not enough or a greater sense of lack.

I have found myself to be one who, for the most part, is primarily upbeat and optimistic.  Even in the worst times of my life, I have always, generally speaking, been able to level out to a space of happiness, albeit sometimes it took longer than others to arrive there.  For this reason I know, I have attracted more of what matches my positive nature.  And although financial wealth has been and still is a goal, it is secondary to simply having a joyful life experience, which is independent of the money.  Sure I have been blessed.  I have acquired many things in life, have fallen in and out of love many times over, and have traveled to and seen many exotic and beautiful places.  So which came first, the chicken or the egg, so to speak?  Did I have the joy that attracted the things or did I acquire the things that brought me the joy.  Unequivocally, the joy and happiness came first.  Because here’s the thing, you can never get to a happy place taking an unhappy journey.  You’ll only eventually return to your unhappy place you were in when you started.

I remember years ago, I had a financial goal of having a certain amount of liquid cash in the bank.  I acquired that amount. Then I acquired my dream vehicle, the SUV I’d always desired for years. I drove it off the showroom floor!  Then, I was afforded the luxury of expensive travel experiences to foreign lands.  I cannot begin to tell you the enormous amount of ebullience I felt.  There was no feeling up to that point that could match setting those goals and watching them come to fruition.  Then a strange thing happened.  After maybe six months or so of feeling the joy that came from having these things, I petered out.  I leveled back out to the way I felt prior to the acquisition of the things.  Wait a minute!   What happened?  I still had my dream vehicle.  I had even more money in the bank. I was very much enjoying my travel experiences.  So why did I not feel the same exuberance I felt initially.  Because the joy and happiness I sought after did not reside in the material things.  My ability for living happily ever after has always resided within me!



Week 45 – Learning to Live Happily Ever After

 When we consider our childhood and all of the stories that were shared regarding enchanted forests, fairy tales and happily-ever-afters they may seem like the simple naivety of a child or a distant memory of make-believe. After all, we live in a world of fast cars, high rent, over worked/under paid, late payments, mortgages, credit card debt and unrealized happiness. Unless it’s the weekend! Right? THAT’S when we find some happiness. Some freedom to let loose! Time to put the rat-race on pause and let our hair down because we have suddenly found the freedom to locate our happiness. We thank GOD for Friday and turn around and curse Him on Monday. We’re busy. Gotta go! Too much going on. Stay focused. Get ahead. Get yours cause I got mine. I’m just trying to make it. Keep my head up and my nose clean. “Ain’t nobody got time fa dat!” We do these things and chase our material dreams in search of a manufactured happiness. A replica. A mold or model. A simulation. But we don’t find the real thing. That type of happiness is fleeting. Short-lived. Temporary. So HOW do we create sustained happiness in our lives? Join Align to Enlighten during the month of November as we discuss Learning to Live Happily Ever After.

Being “enlightened” is simply about being aware of authentic truth at all times. That’s what enlightenment is and what it is about. As we discuss ways of Learning to Live Happily Ever After this month, one of the first things we want to share is…be enlightened. Enlightenment is not a destination where you have an ultimate “arrival.” Enlightenment is a state of being. A state of being that takes practice. The exercise never ends. But your enlightenment continues to grow the more you engage it. The more you pay attention to it, tend to it, nurture it, practice it, the more you become aware of what is authentically true to you. So, it is important to be mindful, aware, centered, grateful, in-the-moment, etc. because these are the tools that keep us enlightened.

Finding sustained happiness is a result of finding and practicing enlightenment in our lives. As I drive to work on the 5 Freeway and I see the bumper to bumper traffic, people on cell phones, others applying makeup or yelling at their kids or simply looking straight ahead, seemingly oblivious to their overall surroundings, I wonder…”what’s on your mind?” Are you being mindful, aware, centered, grateful and in-the-moment? Or are you a mental and spiritual zombie. A zombie, going through the motions without thought because this is the routine you are accustomed to. Thoughtless mental muscle memory that pushes you forward while your creativity lies dormant. These are things I think about. Then I look out beyond the traffic and I see the bright, blue sky, the mountains in the distance and the array of beautiful green trees that surround me. I open the windows of my car and feel the cool, gentle breeze and I can faintly smell the ocean across my nose. I see the birds flying high above me as if they don’t have a care in the world while gliding on the wind. I become caught up in the moment and the beauty that surrounds me…and I can’t…help…but…smile. At THAT moment…I’m living happily ever after.

I come home, kiss my wife, inquire about her day. Sit with my children and listen to their excitement as they tell me about the newest level they’ve made it to on a video game and how Gortex has been defeated and now they must battle his brother to the death in order to win the game. Or how there was an epic kickball game at school but Kim cheated because she didn’t touch 2nd base and refused to go back. Or how hard the test was in Social Science and nobody got number 13 correct because it was SOOOOO hard! And the entire time, the dog is in the middle of it all…ball in his mouth…tail wagging so much it may fall off. In looking at these people as they share, I see they are finding enjoyment in sharing their day and their experiences with ME. And in their enjoyment…I find myself living happily ever after.

I go into the kitchen thinking, okay…time to make dinner. And as I prepare whatever it is I have decided for the day, I begin to prepare to cook. I pull out meat, vegetables, cutting board, pots, pans, dishes, etc. knowing I’ve been at work all day and this is going to take another hour at least to cook for my family when I’d probably rather be sitting on my couch watching the game. But once I start, I begin to feel the love I am putting into this meal that will fill the bellies and provide comfort to my family. I put more love and take more care into what I’m doing to ensure their taste buds, their stomachs their sense of fulfillment and security, will be satisfied. The thought of that…makes me happy. And I realize…I’m living my happily ever after.

Happily ever after is not a destination. It is a state of being. And by paying attention, being aware, and finding gratitude, joy, love and happiness in the little things of life, we create the enchanted world that fairy tales are made of. Similar to enlightenment…happily ever after is not some destination but a state of being that takes practice. The exercise never ends. But your happiness continues to grow. The more you pay attention to it, tend to it, nurture it, practice it, the more you become aware of the happiness that surrounds you. When we are mindful, aware, centered, grateful, in-the-moment, etc. our happily ever after does not elude us. Our happily ever after becomes a part of our everyday lives.

During the month of November, we will explore and share many different ways of finding and sustaining happiness within our lives. Join us as we teach, Learning to Live Happily Ever After.

Week 44 – The Racism Revolution, E-RACE IT!

Just a quick recap of the past 4 weeks of our discussion on The Black and White of Racism:

The first week we talked about the cause, effect, and briefly touched on the cure for racism.  We discussed racism and its correlation with energy.  The second week we wrote an open letter to racism, exposing its cowardice, disempowering its effect and influence.  We talked about how when racism surfaces, you and I have a decision to make whether or not we will engage in the dance or not.  We stated emphatically that, world peace begins with your own reality and the peace you create within your own world.  In the third week we discussed the role that both the victimizer and the victim play in any discriminatory scenario, and how racism is no different. We talked about how in order to see something different regarding racism, we must start addressing it from the causative problem solving approach, and address it from a proactive, creative position instead of responding and reacting position.  Then in week four we established a New Modern Day Civil Rights Movement and described how empathy, expectation, and empowerment can effect racism in a more powerful and sustained way.  We differentiated between the civil right movement of years past and this the new modern day civil rights movement, and how energy and expectation play more of a role than anything else.

We would like to conclude this series on racism with two brief and personal stories.  These stories will show how energy and emotion are two of THE key factors always in play with racism and how the non-physical is much more powerful than the physical.

About three years ago, I was working for a home health agency, providing therapy services.  I had been assigned a patient who needed occupational therapy.  This patient also required skilled nursing, physical therapy, and nurse aide assistance.  The racial breakdown of the therapist were 2 black (myself and the nursing aide); and 2 white (the registered nurse and the physical therapist).  The patient was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s and was being cared for by her daughter, so all of the scheduled visits were done through the daughter as the patient’s cognitive status would not allow her to engage appropriately.  After the services had started and all clinicians were scheduled and arriving at different times throughout the day and week, a strange thing happened.  One day, seemingly out of the blue, the daughter instructed the nursing aide to start entering and exiting the premises through the back door, at the back of the house.  Yes, you heard me, the professional service provider who was coming to the home to help make the person’s life better, was asked or rather instructed to come and go through the back door of the house.  For those unfamiliar, it was common practice on the plantation of the slave owner to instruct the slave to enter and exit through the “servant door” and to reside in the “servant quarters” which was usually located behind the house.   My co-worker, recognizing what she was experiencing was livid!   She became very emotional, took the situation to our superior, and it became a big deal.  She never returned to the home.  I, having witnessed this whole occurrence, also became very emotional about the situation.  It made me extremely angry.  Although it was not my personal immediate experience, I empathized with my co-worker.  I shared her pain.  I talked about the situation for weeks and weeks with any and everybody that would listen, even long after it was over because of the tremendous injustice I felt had taken place.  And when I talked about what happened, I did so with great emotion and passion fueled with anger and pain, saying things like, “if that would have happened to me, I would have done such and such.”

So, true to its basis, Law of Attraction, gave me exactly what my attention was on, exactly what I secretly feared, and exactly where my energy was.   About three weeks past the situation that occurred and about a month into this whole treatment assignment with the patient, the daughter very politely and respectfully, with such care, asked ME if  I would start coming and going through the back door.  Yes!  I had attracted the very same scenario into my own personal experience.  This is an attraction based world and universe.  Nothing ever comes uninvited!

The lesson is clear.  Last week we posed the question:  Why do we let someone else’s experience define our expectations?  “If it is not your reality, I’m not saying ignore it. What I’m saying is, continue to create the peace you seek through your vision and expectation. And share THAT with others to assist that vision in growing. Be involved in the creation of YOUR reality.”  (From Week 43 – The Modern Day Civil Rights Movement).  Oh yeah,  of course I did not go through any back door but rather used the opportunity to educate and teach the daughter on a few things and I kept it moving.  And I realized that anytime you match expectation with powerful emotion and energy, there will always be a physical manifestation.

The second story happened more recently.  After hanging out one night coming home pretty late, I was stopped by the police.  The officer stated he pulled me over because I could not be texting and driving, that that was against the law (driving while distracted).  It should be noted here that this was the third time I’d been stopped for the same infraction, so suffice to say I had established a vibration about the subject that was counterintuitive to my desire.  I stated to the officer I was not texting, that I was about to play some music.  He said whatever I was doing with my phone while driving, I cannot do.  So we went through all the formalities, license, registration, insurance, etc.

It is very important to also note that my mood and disposition was extremely good, and that I had also been intentionally and deliberately cleaning up my vibration regarding police for a couple of years now, so that vibrationally speaking, I was in the best space one could be in regarding a situation like this.

Having said that here are the chain of events that took place succinctly after I gave the officer my information.  The officer took my information and said “I am not going to give you a ticket, just a warning.”  He went to his car to run a check on everything then returned to my vehicle and said, “I have good news and bad news.  The good news is you won’t be getting a ticket.  The bad news is I have to take you in to custody.”  WHAT!?!?!  He stated that apparently I had missed a court appearance on another traffic violation (I think for the other “driving while distracted” ticket­)  And that a warrant had been issued for my arrest.

By that time, per protocol, he’d called another officer on scene.  The arresting officer then proceeds to tell me what his intentions are.  He stated, “with your permission, we can drive your truck up the street to the church parking lot, secure it there, so that you’re not impounded.”  Yes, the police decided not have my vehicle impounded and drove it to a church lot and secured it, you read this correctly!  Once he took me down to the precinct they told me my bond was $150.00 and that I had to have the correct dollar amount to post that night or I would have to wait until morning.  I did not have the exact amount. I had well over that amount and needed exactly thirty two dollars with what I already had.

What happened next was like a dream to me.  As I stood there feeling good, in a state of complete allowance, and simply going with the flow of this process, a wonderful thing happened.  I watched as people emptied their pockets, wallets, and purses, one collaborating with the other, anteing up on the exact dollar amount needed for me to go home.  It was if these people were fairies of the Universe, angels if you will, acting in concert on my behalf at that moment in time.  I said nothing as I witnessed this.  It was beautiful and humbling to observe.  Once they had the amount needed for my bond, they continued on with the process and released me.  Then, the last thing that happened was that the arresting officer drove me back to my truck where this all started and I was home all in less than an hour.

Now was this luck, or a blessing, or simply the way this particular officer and police department does things, or, or, or?   It is my dominant belief that I impacted and influenced this situation before it even occurred, so that when it did occur, the best possible outcome transpired.  It is my dominant belief that my practiced and sustained vibration that I know I’ve been working on for about two years regarding the subject of police and law enforcement directly affected this outcome. This had the potential to go any number of different ways.  If my knee-jerk response had been one of having the perception of being harassed, treated unfairly, etc., even if I was justified, my energy would have been much different and this probably would’ve had a completely different ending.

This is not about having a good attitude we’re talking about here, although your vibration and attitude go hand and hand.  We’re talking about changing or better yet affecting, impacting, and influencing the mindset and energy of another human being and the world at large by attuning purposely to your vibration.  Racism can and will end!  But we must take a different approach than we ever have.  We must take an energy approach, starting within ourselves.  Look at what’s transpiring, launch the desire you wish to see, and BE that desire by thought, word, and deed!  All it takes is one.



Week 43 – The Modern Day Civil Rights Movement

 If you know anything about American History, you are familiar with the Civil Rights Movement of the 1960’s. We had so many great leaders, famous and otherwise, who banned together for the betterment of our humanity. From Marie Foster, who advocated for women’s rights to vote to Rosa Parks who was the catalyst for the Montgomery Bus Boycott. From Medgar Evers, who worked to overturn segregation at the University of Mississippi before he was assassinated by white supremacists to James Baldwin, renowned author and poet. From Malcolm X, dynamic speaker and advocate for African-American equality to Martin Luther King Jr., one of the most powerful and influential voices of our time who led the charge for black activism and civil rights in America. There have been numerous leaders and inspired groups of people to help push our country forward. They were relentless in their efforts and we all should be grateful. The countless sit-ins, demonstrations and marches helped to propel change in our country. They were beaten, spat upon, stabbed, shot and killed, all in the name of the desire for civil rights equality in America. So, as we discuss The Black and White of Racism this month let us not forget the struggles of those who came before us. But let us also not forget, we have a responsibility to carry the legacy forward. The responsibility of carrying the expectation of justice and equality forward. The responsibility of actively being a part of the solution, lest we perpetuate the problem. So, what does the Modern Day Civil Rights Movement look like? We offer that it doesn’t look like the Civil Rights Movement of the past. And it doesn’t look like the modern-day activities we currently see in the present.

What do we want? And better yet, how do we plan to achieve it? Are we looking for a modern-day Martin Luther King Jr? Are we in search of the next Malcolm X? Are we mimicking the Black Panther Party with Black Lives Matter? Are we looking, waiting, dreaming for a “savior” to bring us out of the wilderness? Our modern day Civil Rights Movement is within each of us as individuals. No one is coming to “save” us. No one is coming to the “rescue.” We have an active decision to make. Save yourself. Save your reality. Create what it is you desire. Be aligned with that desire. Be proactive with what you expect instead of reacting to what you see. Sheep are led. Wolves lead. “I Have a Dream” is not simply a famous speech. “I Have a Dream” was an expectation of a desired reality. A vision that was held and constantly aligned with one man. MLK believed and expected the words of his speech to manifest way before the words were ever uttered. That turned into a movement and subsequently a reality. Each of us have that same God-given power and ability. The power and ability to create the desires within our hearts to manifest the realities we expect.

The Breakdown: The breakdown between the Civil Rights Movement of the 1960’s compared to where we are today is, somewhere along the line, the African-American community became complacent in our creation. Meaning, after countless laws were passed outlawing segregation, discrimination and several other civil injustices, did we all not seemingly relax? Did we all not have a sense of “arrival?” That everything was good because we could ride in the front of the bus, sit at the counters to eat like everyone else, use the same bathrooms, vote? Did we all not become complacent in the creation? Did we all not simply…stop…creating? We were expectant. That’s for sure. We were expectant that we would sit at those counters, use those bathrooms, vote, etc. and that became and remains our reality. But the breakdown comes when we are expectant, but we didn’t and don’t continue to create. We become stagnant, stale, motionless, quiet and still. The Civil Rights Movement of the 1960’s was focused, consistent and diligent. It was moving…forward…constantly. The masses of people had a focused energy on sustained change. That was the expectation. It was proactive in function. Not only reactive in emotion. Somewhere along the lines, we relaxed. We stopped moving mentally. There was no need to maintain such a high focus on equality because we had “arrived.” However, the other forces of racism, bigotry and inequality continued to feed their vision. Continued to move forward with the hate. Continued to be focused on their desired outcome of separation and segregation. It was never abolished or eradicated. It was only muted for a time. And now, it has caught up. Now it has a very strong voice. Now, African-Americans and those who abhor racial inequality are reacting to something in disgust that we all thought was squashed after legislation and laws were passed that denounced it. While we thought we’d arrived and thought we’d overcome, the hatred remained focused.

Empathy, Expectation and Empowerment: A passive expectation is the same as having no expectation. When considering the Law of Attraction, expectation becomes a foundational pillar of manifestation. The Law of Attraction states, what we focus on, expands. When we reflect on the Civil Rights Movement of the 1960’s, there was a collective focus on equality and inclusion. That collective focus created an expectation. That expectation was realized. The same holds true for today. Our collective expectations are focused on the injustices of police brutality against people of color. Our collective expectations are focused on the systematic dissection and oppression of any minority race but especially in the black community. Our collective expectations are focused on the separation and segregation of the socioeconomically deprived. We are appalled by the injustices we see. We are empathetic with these things we see in the news and in our communities. We are outraged. We are emotionally charged. We are flat out angry. “And we will be heard!” But because our focus, our energy, our emotion, our expectations are focused on the incident…we are not focused on our desired outcome. Therefore, we attract more of the same into our existence. More police brutality. More dissection and oppression. More separation and segregation. More socioeconomic injustice. Our empathy begins to outweigh our empowerment. At Align to Enlighten, we are not emotionally callous to the treacherous events we see in our world. We would simply like to offer another point of view. So, the question is, why do we let someone else’s experiences define our expectations? When we do, our empathy invites the same experience into our reality. (What we focus on, expands)

In speaking with a friend, he said to me, “man these wicked police are out here beating us! Shooting us! Killing us! And we have to do something about it!” So, I agreed but then I asked him, “how many times have you been beaten by the police? Who do you know that has been shot by the police? Tell me the name of the person in your family or even a friend that has been killed by the police.” His response…    ”THAT’S NOT THE POINT!” But isn’t it? While we empathize, and speak out against injustice, as we should, what he spoke about was not his reality. If it is not your reality, I’m not saying ignore it. What I’m saying is, continue to create the peace you seek through your vision and expectation. And share THAT with others to assist that vision in growing. Be involved in the creation of YOUR reality.

When we carry that expectation of “the police are out here killing us!” and you get pulled over, everything about you says, “I’m EXPECTING something to happen here. Whether you realize it or not, it will show in your demeanor, your body language, your attitude, your tone. Your expectations are a part of you. They tell the raw truth of what you feel. And they are manifested just the same. This is fact. Therefore, be mindful of what you expect in life and what you expect out of life. This is how the Law of Attraction works. Period. When we focus on “these police are out here killing us!” then that thought continues to expand and grow. Again, this does NOT mean we ignore what has happened and what we continue to see happening. What it means is, we have to start to shift our expectations to affect change in our individual realities. And we ALL have the individual responsibility to hold ourselves accountable for our thoughts and expectations.

The Modern Day Civil Rights Movement – The Civil Rights Movement was about social justice and equality for all. If you are appalled by the violation of civil rights we see in the news; if you are disgusted with racial hatred; if you despise police brutality and downright murder of civilians, then it is time to create a new reality. This next part is easier said than done: but put your emotions, your energy and your focus on the SOLUTION. Be aligned with what it is you desire to see. Be consistent with your creation. Be clear with your desire. Be resolute, grounded and matter-of-fact with your expectations. THIS is the Modern Day Civil Rights Movement. Change will be manifested not only because of your march, your protest, your boycott or because of your sit in. Change will be manifested because of your focus and your expectation. Don’t invite another person’s reality to be your own. Instead, create the reality you desire. Share with others how to create their own. And watch sustained change happen. Watch justice be born. Watch peace be manifested. Expect it.


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