What’s the Silver Bullet???

  Someone recently asked me, “how is it that you remain so positive and upbeat all the time??? Especially with all the crazy stuff happening in the world and our country?” I told them, “there is no secret sauce or magic pixie dust or silver bullet. Many times, I am ACTIVELY engaged with myself in an effort to maintain my alignment. THAT’S where the sauce, dust and bullet reside. Within me! And MY desire to create and control my reality.” And that is all truth. Living deliberately is another way to put it. I wake up with a desire to deliberately have a great day. EVERY day. That is my intention. That is my focus. That is my desire. I make it known to the Universe when I get out of bed. And throughout the day, as things come up, as they do, I work to remain AWARE of what I decided when I woke up. But there is certainly more to it than that.

My friend says to me, “but shit happens.” Well…yeah…stuff DOES happen. The trick is understanding our positive intentions are not going to necessarily stop “shit” from happening. It’s what we choose to DO with the “shit” that determines if we maintain our alignment or not. It’s not about stopping things from happening that we perceive as “bad” in our lives. But it’s about navigating our emotions, our desires and intentions through the things that are happening around us so we maintain our emotional power and don’t become overpowered by the situation around us. And that decision of a situation having “power” over us is determined by us as individuals.

So my friend asks, “but aren’t you affected by stuff? Don’t you get upset about things? Aren’t you angry about this or that?” And my response is, “well, yeah. I’m human. But I’m a spiritual being FIRST. Therefore, I understand that any and everything outside of my spiritual existence is temporal. It’s not going to last forever. Not even a little bit.” While I am affected by things that are seemingly sporadic, chaotic, unintentional, etc. I continue to learn how to put those things into perspective and in context. When we can adjust our perspective and create context, we have gained spiritual control over that thing whatever the situation.

My friend, “but you can’t tell me you’ve got all this stuff figured out and it simply rolls off your back because you have given it ‘context’ and therefore you’re not affected. I’ve seen you angry, depressed, upset, etc. so are you being hypocritical? Or you just living in some fantasy land with what you’re saying?” Not at all. We all have plans, desires, objectives, goals and the like. That doesn’t mean you don’t get knocked off track by life from time to time. But the major thing to remember is…THIS IS ALL TEMPORAL. So there is no need to over react to anything. Ever. So I told my friend, “oh yes, I get angry, depressed, upset and all of that. But my key is being AWARE. Being aware of what I feel. Which most of us are acutely aware of what we are feeling when we are feeling it. But awareness is more than that. Awareness is understanding WHY you feel that way. And not just the ‘why’ of “because my husband made me mad! and that’s why I feel the way I do.” But deeper than that. Ask yourself why, over and over again until you get to the root of your emotion. This is a tough exercise, trust me. The next time you are angry, upset or experience any other emotion other than what you want to feel…ask yourself ‘why’ at least five times. Most situations won’t allow you to get past 3 why’s. But once you are at the root of why your emotion is what it is…you have put it into context. Once you have context, you can pivot your emotion to the next level emotion of what you TRULY desire to feel.

I explained this to my friend and he was a bit confused so I told him more plainly. I told him, “when you are angry. Ask yourself, why? My wife made me angry. Why? Because she spoke to me the wrong way. Why? Because she thought things should go a different way. Why? Probably because we weren’t clear with each other. Why? Well, maybe because I wanted it one way or perhaps because I only heard what I wanted to hear. Okay. So now, you have context and can choose which way you want to go from here. OR you can stay angry. What emotion do you DESIRE to feel now that you’ve gotten to the root of your emotion?” My friend understood at that point. This is what being ACTIVELY engaged with yourself to maintain your alignment means.

“But what about those things that are out of your control when they happen that don’t have anything to do with another person per se?” In these cases, I explained, “it is still important to understand the root of your emotion. Especially if you desire to manifest a new emotion. Once you’ve identified what you truly feel then you have put your emotion into context. Once you have context, you have power. Without context, our emotions can run rampant because they are unbridled. Context puts the bridle on the emotion and allows you to steer them whichever way you want them to go.

But, it is still understood it’s difficult for us to go from angry to extreme joy. This is an exercise. That exercise is deciding what the next level up is from anger for you. Is it melancholy? Is it discontent? Is it irritation? Whatever the next level up emotion is for you, choose THAT in your moment of emotional clarity once you’ve identified the root. “How do you do that?” Once the emotion is in context, identify what you are grateful for in the midst of the situation. NO MATTER the situation! What is at least ONE thing you are grateful for in that situation? This will move you from where you currently stand emotionally to the next level up. So you go from angry to discontent. Then you go from discontent to indifferent. Then you go from indifferent to content. Then you go from content to happy. Then you go from happy to joyous. And your joyousness becomes contagious and begins to affect your reality and the people around you in positive ways to the point where they ask you, “how is it that you remain so positive and upbeat all the time??? Especially with all the crazy stuff happening in the world and our country?”

It takes time and active engagement with yourself. Be aware of what is happening. Be aware of your emotion and why you feel what you do. As you continue to grow, your awareness will also grow so you can head off the negative feelings at the pass before they go too far. Don’t expect the same old outcomes. We have the power to create new and unexpected outcomes. Unexpected from the people around you. Deliberately created BY you.

 

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