Keeping THE Commitment

We live in a society full of commitments.  We make commitments to our careers, to our loved ones, our children, commitments to losing weight, eliminating bad habits, etc.  Our lives are full to the rim with commitments.  Today we’d like to briefly discuss how to honor THE most important commitment, and when/how to break a commitment when it no longer serves your purpose.

For the purpose here, we will use promise/agreement/commitment all interchangeably.

Most of us were imprinted at birth that we are always to keep our commitments, no matter what.  I am very big on keeping commitments and have taken it very personal when someone broke their commitment to me, when I’ve broken a promise to another, or when I’ve not maintained my own agreement made to myself.

Without providing a specific definition to the word, we can agree that commitment usually means a dedication of yourself to something or someone.  A commitment is a promise to do something or not to do something.  But what happens when the promise you made no longer agrees with who you are as person?  What do you do when a commitment you made no longer feels right?  No longer aligns with your spirit. No longer fits with who you are?

For many this is a touchy subject.  Because again, it has been so ingrained in us as a society that we must keep our word at all costs- no matter what.   But you when you begin to evolve and start paying more attention to your own inner guidance and start listening more to your higher self, you realize that sometimes, maybe more often than not, the best thing to do is break the  commitment.

We’ll just make the statement outright here and now, THE most important commitment you can keep is your commitment to yourself.  And likewise, THE most detrimental commitment you can break is also your commitment to you. Now when we say commitment to yourself, we do not mean in a selfish/egotistical type of way (although we are proponents of selfishness).  We mean commitment to your inner being, who always knows what’s best for you, commitment to your own alignment and keeping promises that align with your “who” and what you are as a person, as an evolving, ever-changing human being.

If you are a person who spends time on personal and spiritual growth and development, you know, like I do, that sometimes we outgrow old commitments.  We reach points where it’s clear that the original promise or agreement no longer makes sense.  So, what most of us do is we try to subvert the NEW awareness and keep on with the “commitment” that we made.  How tragic is this- to be spiritually and vibrationally connected, come to new awareness based on new wants and desires, but be bound by the fact that you made a commitment, and God forbid you want to do something else!  So instead of pursuing the new course that feels the best, and most aligned with the new you, we simply stay the course we’re on for promise sake.

There are some questions to ask yourself when contemplating breaking a commitment that no longer serves you:

Why did you commit in the first place?  Ask yourself why you made this commitment.  Was it out of fear?  Misguided loyalty?  Were you trying to please someone else? (which occurs most of the time)  But most importantly- Is this commitment in alignment with who I am and what I want now?  If the answer is yes, then it’s simply a matter of recommitting and refocusing all energy in the direction of the commitment.  If the answer is no, it might be time to reconsider the commitment, keeping in mind that you do yourself and others the greatest disservice ever by keeping a commitment that no longer lines up with who you are. Because then you are not able to truly give your true, authentic self and will always be in a state of discontent, knowing innately this is not the right course.

Of course, there are times where there’s a lot at stake.  Sometimes credibility and reliability become questionable.  Breaking a commitment to take out the garage is not nearly as consequential to breaking a commitment made to your boss, husband, friend, or children.  It takes a tremendous amount of courage and self-awareness to know when it’s time to make a change and make it.  No one wants to involve themselves with a person who’s liable to break their commitment. But I think it’s more important to always stay truest to yourself, not as a cop out to simply do whatever you want to do whenever you want to do it. But rather a sincere awareness of self and what’s the best decision for YOU that keeps you in alignment with your inner-being.

 

 

 

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