What’s In the Power of Loving Yourself?

  There is so much power in loving yourself. But for whatever reasons, sometimes we veer away from this space. Perhaps we’ve been taught to put others first. Or that loving yourself is selfish. And that’s exactly right! Loving yourself IS selfish! It’s the best kind of selfish and we should be as selfish as possible! Because loving yourself…selfishly…creates an understanding of how to love others unconditionally.

I know a man who struggles with infidelity. He says he’s “happy” with his current relationship. But he still strays quite often. So I asked him one day, completely without judgment in mind, “hey man, why do you do that? What makes you go out, talk to women and then try to sleep with them when you already have a woman who is dedicated to you?” The answers he gave me were things like, “because she doesn’t do what I want her to do at home. She doesn’t make me laugh any more. She doesn’t romance me like she used to. She doesn’t give me the attention I want or deserve.” When he was done, I told him how many times he’d used the word “she.” I said to him, “when I asked YOU why YOU do what YOU do, you offered me several things on what SHE does or doesn’t do. So do you think the issue is really with HER? Or with YOU?” My friend did not readily accept what I was suggesting which was the “problem” is not with her…but with him. (we use parenthesis with “problem” because there is no real problem, only perception and what we choose to do with it) But the point is, the underlying challenge is not with the other person…it is with his lack of true and authentic love for himself. It is no one else’s job to make YOU happy. That job lies strictly from within.

When I was in the 6th grade there was a bully in my class. I won’t call his name because I still know him and we’re connected on social media. I won’t call his name, not because I am afraid of this “bully” lol…but because I am compassionate. He would terrorize me daily. He as an instigator. He was much bigger than I was and I was honestly not confident with who I was at the time. I dreaded seeing him at lunch or at recess because I knew he found pleasure in harassing me. He would push me or look to embarrass me in front of groups of people. But if it were he and I alone, he’d want to be like normal friends. What I understand now…while he was looking to hurt ME…it was HIM that was the one hurting.

I know another lady who constantly lives with self-doubt. She does well at her job, her coworkers seem to like her well enough and she holds a mid-level executive position. However, she is constantly touting who she is, what she can do, how smart she is, what she’s accomplished, etc. to anyone who will listen. She comes off as narcissistic, egotistical and self-absorbed. So I asked her, “why do you constantly feel the need to basically share your entire resume with people when you meet them? Why do you feel the need to talk about yourself and your accomplishments constantly?” And she responded with “because you constantly have to sell yourself so people know your worth!” At that moment, my heart went out to her.

So here is where we want to demonstrate What’s In the Power of Loving Yourself.  First off, it’s okay. It’s okay to love yourself. To truly…love YOU. It’s okay to take care of YOU, pamper YOU, to treat YOU with gentleness, kindness, compassion, acceptance, love…it is okay. It’s okay to put yourself first. It’s okay to stop…and think about what YOU want out of any given situation or circumstance and act accordingly. It. Is. Okay. It’s okay to shield yourself from outside negativity that comes to you in the form of a friend or family member. You are not OBLIGATED simply because you are in those relationships to be an empath for negativity. It’s okay to NOT be that person, in the name of protecting YOU. It’s okay. This doesn’t mean you cut people off with a “talk-to-the-hand” mentality. It simply means it’s okay to protect yourself from feelings, emotions, situations and circumstances that do not align with YOUR happiness. Is that being selfish? YES! And it’s OKAY to be selfish!

When we love ourselves, unconditionally, our first minds are to treat our bodies, our minds and our souls as we would an infant child. If you have had an infant child or been around one, we are gentle. We are loving. We are careful. We watch what we say, we check our tone, we open ourselves up to love, compassion and grace. THIS is the way we should treat ourselves. Gently. Without judgment. In compassion. With love. We should love ourselves and protect ourselves from what may harm us, not only physically, but mentally and spiritually as well. In the first example of my friend who is a womanizer, (hate giving people labels but this is for context), he does not fully love HIMSELF. Ladies…THAT’S why men cheat, fyi.

There is a part of him that is not being attended to that causes him to cheat. NOT the part he thinks should be attended to by his mate. But the part not being attended to by and for himself. When we (men AND women) love OURSELVES to the core of our true being…we learn how to appreciate and love a woman at the core of HER being and not just the surface of her body.

When it comes to my bully “friend,” there was and probably still is a part of him that is not being attended to. He was looking for acceptance. He was looking for acceptance because he didn’t accept HIMSELF for who he was. He didn’t like himself. He was levying judgment against himself for not being enough. Therefore, he looked to gain acceptance from others by portraying some tough, bully-like persona. When we accept OURSELVES, without judgment, with love, with compassion, with grace…we find true acceptance within ourselves and it doesn’t matter what others think about us.

Regarding my narcissistic friend, she too feels inadequate. She feels less than. And that’s why she makes it a point to broadcast her accomplishments to “justify her value” to people who, in the bigger scheme of life, don’t even matter. Our journey  is dictated by what we desire, intend and expect. Not by other peoples’ perceptions of the facade we create. She is missing the simple acceptance of who she is while also not loving herself to know that she is enough…just as she is.

When we truly and honestly love ourselves to the core of our being, we accept who we are. We love who we are. We take good care of who we are. Be gentle with yourself, the same as you would with an infant child. You wouldn’t levy judgment against a baby. You wouldn’t speak harshly or berate them. Instead, we are compassionate, loving, caring and affectionate with them. Be THAT same person with yourself. Protect yourself. Keep yourself out of harm’s way. Be concerned about what you read, what you watch and who you surround yourself with. Be gentle with yourself and stop punishing yourself for things you’ve done or decisions you’ve made. Love you for ALL of you. Unconditionally.  With FULL acceptance. And then you will love others in the same way.


Expect the Best!

And only the best!!

How many of us try to live by this philosophy?  I remember a short time ago, my motto was, “Hope for the best, but plan for the worst.”  Which obviously meant I was expecting the worst. This was based on conventional thinking that said, “whatever can go wrong, will go wrong.”

There are different schools of thought regarding expectation.  Some say, we should let go of expectations and enjoy the journey with no real attachments or assumptions as to the outcome.  While others say, we should expect exactly what it is we want and look for nothing less.

The fact of the matter is, you DO have expectations- all day every day.  You simply can not get around that.  You expect the sun to shine, you expect to have fresh running water, you expect good transportation, you expect your local store to stock an abundance of food. You’ve come to expect certain behaviors from others like your children, spouses, bosses, etc.  You have expectations all-the-time. You’ve come to expect things mainly because you’ve always had them.  But how can you expect something that you haven’t seen the evidence of?  Or more so, how can you expect something that you actually have seen evidence of its opposite?  We are here to discuss ways to channel your expectations.  Redesign them if you will, to create greater leverage towards empowerment.

It’s a very peculiar thing when you think about it. Because the way it works is that you have a primary thought and belief about something, and the Universe provides you evidence to support that thought/belief.  So then you think, as it appears to be true, that you had the experience first which led you to believe a certain thing, which obviously led to you having certain expectations around that thing.  But in reality you created the experience through your thoughts. Emotions, beliefs, and expectations.  The Universe simply echoed that which you projected externally.  But what we want to share with you is how to positively expect the unseen.  How to expect that, which in its immediate observation, is something different than what you want, by focusing the power to project positive expectations towards what it is that you DO want- AND GET IT!  We want to share with you how to change your expectations to positively effect everything around you and everything you come in contact with.

So how does it work?

Expectations come from the context of what’s being observed, previous experiences and mostly what has happened recently and repetitively.  When a decision is made as to which expected event is chosen, we tend to “see” things literally, based on our expectation. This is part of the equation of how it is you go about creating your own realty and how it is we turn thoughts into things.  Your expectation colors and shapes your reality.  What you expect to see, is what you generally tend to see.  Some will say, “No, I didn’t have an expectation of anything, and this bad thing just happened.”  Well, we know that is not how it works from a Universal Law perspective.

If you have spent any time at all following Align To Enlighten, then you know that it is your thoughts and accompanying emotions that contain manifesting power. This is because that’s all the Universe can hear, it doesn’t hear your words or speak our vocal language – but rather interprets the vibration that comes from your thoughts and emotions AND your intention and expectation.

So here’s how to use expectation for your greater good and to change your own reality towards desired things you want.

  1. Understand what expectation is. That it is more than words.  Expectation is indeed a force, just like belief, just like intention.  As matter of fact, they all go hand and hand. And in understanding first and foremost that expectation is a force, always in action, whether you use it deliberately or not, always available whether you choose to consciously use it or not, you can now CHOOSE to exercise deliberate intention to use expectation to your advantage.
  2. Understand that you can’t cheat expectation. In other words, you can’t fake like you’re expecting something that you’re really not.  Expectation is directly tied to your belief.  You can not expect other than what you believe to be true, usually.  So you can’t really “fake it til you make it”, in regards to expectation.  Your expectation has to come from a place of truth and complete authenticity.
  3. Start today choosing to expect the best in every situation. This requires a shift in paradigm.  Because as previously stated you can’t just start expecting something you don’t believe to be true.  Start simply by training your mind onto good thoughts by developing a strong focus, awareness, and thinking about things that make you happy and that make you smile when you think of them. Don’t give your attention to anything unwanted. If you catch yourself thinking a thought unwanted, simply shake your head and let the thought dissipate or say out loud ‘switch’ or what I like to use, ‘chill’ to signify a mental change is required. Keep saying things like, “I know this is going to work out for the best,” or “I know I will turn this situation to my advantage somehow,” or “I expect the best and the best always comes to me!
  4. Avoid negative talk like the plague (BY ANY MEANS NECESSARY). By “negative talk” we mean complaining, arguing, being miserable or feeling fearful and powerless – anything that drags down your emotions and contradicts your positive expectations. Limit the amount of time you spend with negative people as much as people. (We are assuming that you are not one of those people yourself lol).  Some people are easy to complain with than others, do your best to avoid conversations with these people and spend more time feeling positive and spending your time with positive people.
  5. KNOW that your expectation will come true. You may wonder how to “know” when you really don’t know yet! If it hasn’t happened yet, how can you be sure it will? This type of knowing is based solely on a generality. It is not so much that you know what you are expecting specifically will happen (although it can and most often will).  It means more a general knowing that the feeling you’re seeking will take place.  That you will feel exactly what you hoped to feel from the expected experience.   Because remember, the only reason you want anything ever, is because of how you think you’re going to feel in having it.  You must CHOOSE to know, that come what may, even if what you expected did not occur specifically, that ALL IS WELL.  And that your general expectation is one of THAT knowing- that all is well, and everything is always working out for my greater good, and that everything is for a greater purpose.   It might take some time to get comfortable with this, but once you do, it becomes a lot easier. In order to really know, you’re going to have to completely banish doubt and disbelief from your mind. When they pop up, simply push them out of your mind (SWITCH), and affirm again that you KNOW your expectation will happen. Expectation of what?  WELL-BEING, joy, satisfaction, No exception!. The only way to master this is through practice.


Don’t Forget About the Children…Be One…

Do you remember the innocence of your childhood? It doesn’t matter what your socioeconomic status may have been; rich, poor, middle class, whatever the label. We were children. Children with ideas, thoughts, dreams, unbounded potential and high expectations. School days lasted “forever.” But so did Saturdays when we played outside all day long. Time “stood still.”

As children, we lived without limits. Without boundaries. Everything was possible. Our “wealth” came from family and friends. The love was abundant. The compassion overflowing. The kindness, plentiful. This is not to say, “those were the good old days.” Or, “remember how it used to be so much better???” Or, “I wish we could go back to the way things used to be!” None of those statements are the answer. We have the ability to create the “good old days” right now.

Time “stood still” when we were children, primarily because, we didn’t focus on time. In fact, in this vast and infinite Universe we live in, time does not actually exist. Time is a man-made construct that we created in an effort to capture moments. But moments are fleeting. Therefore we feel time is fleeting and we say things like, “it’s October ALREADY!” as if the months have somehow sped up since we last checked. We have imprisoned ourselves and have become slaves to something we created. Is there time in Heaven, Hell, paradise, purgatory? Is there time in deep space? No. Time on earth is calculated and represented, based on our rotation around the sun. But we apply it to all things as if it’s truth. Time is a burden. Once you understand the context of what time actually is…you release yourself of that burden and immediately find happiness within the moment. When we are continually looking for better things in a future that hasn’t happened yet, we miss the moment in front of us. And when it’s gone, we wonder how we missed it. “It’s already the end of the year!” (for more on this, please see, Time Is An Illusion, July, 2018)

But as children, we took the moment and lived every second of it. Time stood still because our expectations of tomorrow, next week, next month, next year were so completely far away because we were in, that, moment. And when we thought of the future, it was bright because we didn’t have a reference point to judge what that may look like based on past experience. The possibilities were vast. Then we got older, experienced more, and then decided what the next moment would be, NOT because we were actively creating it, but because we based it on past experience as opposed to what we desire to create in that moment with the infinite possibilities available. This is why time seems to be fleeting. We are anticipating the next moment, predicting it and creating it based on what we THINK because we’ve “seen this movie before and we know how it ends.”

Many of us adults, could learn so much from a child’s mentality. When a child believes something is possible, it becomes a truth. When a child LOVES…that love does not come with a disclaimer. (if you do “this” then I won’t love you any more) When children are on a playground and someone else wants to join in, for the most part, the other person is welcomed to join. Young kids on a playground don’t segregate or discriminate, unless they were taught by an adult. In all of these scenarios, children step out on the path to joy, happiness, abundance, peace and respect. There is an EXPECTATION in them to receive these things. ADULTS teach them otherwise. Sometimes we teach an expectation of disappointment in an effort to protect kids from it. “No Johnny, don’t do that because it may not work out like you think.” It’s the fact that Johnny THINKS it WILL work out as to why his parent should encourage him to do it. Things…are manifested from thought, expectation and belief.

As adults, in today’s world, we seem to be preoccupied with so many things outside of our children and our childlike mentality. So many of us are completely emotionally charged on so many challenges we face: Stress on the job, our Political climate (Republican vs. Democrat), the president, #metoo, Black Lives Matter, police brutality, the economy, our daily commute, etc. But are we forgetting who we once were and what that means??? Are we caught up in the wake of perceived chaos, floundering in anger, fighting to the death for a cause, debating our political views, furthering our careers…all while losing our true selves?

As we are caught up in the various perceived challenges of this life, we lose sight of the foundation that guides all that will happen next…the moment and what we decide to do with it. Teach our children or should I say LEARN from them that our dreams are where our realities come from. Teach our children and remind yourself to embrace dreams, visions and expectations. Do not stifle them, or yourself, based on YOUR experiences from YOUR past. Release that which has held you back. If you “know how this movie ends” and you are basing your thoughts, actions, and next steps from that, then open yourself to the possibility of new and brighter outcomes. Do it without boundaries or limitations like a child would.

Reclaim some of the elements of your childhood. EXPECT Santa Claus to show up! JK, but seriously, expect wonderful things to happen in your life. What good does the alternative bring you? Give LOVE freely and to all. What reason do you have not to? “Because some people don’t deserve it,” a friend told me. Really? If this is the way you feel, then love is exactly what you should be giving in that scenario. It will free YOU by doing so. Invite others into your life experience. Do something out of the ordinary. Challenge yourself. Challenge the self-inflicted boundaries that hold you back. Be accepting. Wake up happy. Explore. Be inspired! Have fun. Live in the moment and LOVE the moment! Don’t wait until quitting time, or the weekend or until the holidays or until your vacation to be happy. Find the happiness, joy, expectation and anticipation you had as a child. And foster THAT same behavior in your children today. They know how to live life happily ever after.

Escaping the Collective Consciousness

Belief is one of the most, if not THE most powerful forces that exists.  What you believe shapes everything – your expectation, your outlook on life- the lens out of which you see everything through, your choices and decisions, and certainly your perception.  All these things have their root in your belief system.  Your reality, your current state of being, is significantly impacted by your belief.  This is why smart parents try to instill in their children very early on certain beliefs about who they are and what they can be in life. They understand the lasting effects.

It never ceases to amaze me that you can believe something to be true, whether it is or isn’t, and it will become true for you.  You can actually believe something INTO truth.  For example, I have a friend, that every time it rains, and she doesn’t have anything to cover her head, she gets sick.  So, when it’s cloudy, she’ll make statements like, “I better get home before this rain catches me.  I don’t want to be sick.”  She has a belief and expectation that the rain on her head causes her illness – every time.  And of course, the Universe being the cooperative component that it is, obliges her every single time it rains and her head isn’t covered.

In the above dialogue, we’re referencing individual or singular belief power/consciousness.  However, just as it is with any other force of power where there is a collective number – the power is even greater.  For the purpose of this discussion we’ll call collective consciousness a collective energy which is created, and vibrational frequency generated as a result of the combined or collective individual thought processes and beliefs.

Just as one individual has the power to believe something not tangible into something tangible, so it is much more so with collective consciousness.  Just as your individual thoughts, beliefs, emotions and actions mirror perfectly what you experience in your life, it is the collective thought, belief, emotion and actions of the ~ 7 billion individuals around the world which collectively join to create the various events, conditions and circumstances in the world on a much broader scale. It is this pool of collective thought patterns and beliefs that determines worldwide occurrences such as wars, homelessness, poverty, love, hatred, gender inequalities, classism, and yes racism.  We can argue that even natural disasters are a result of the metaphysical manifesting into the physical.

We give it all meaning-

It is us, we are the ones, the masses of living human beings, that give meaning to any and everything- EVERYTHING!

The collective belief for a very long time was that the Earth was flat until one individual challenged that notion.

The collective belief for a long time also was that you couldn’t run a mile in under 4 minutes.  It was thought to be humanly impossible until Roger Bannister came along.

If a tree falls in the forest, and no one is around to hear it, does it make a sound?  The answer is no, it does not, UNLESS there is someone there to interpret sound.  We are the perceivers of all there is.  Things are because we say they are, as individuals and as a collective.  It’s almost as saying things don’t exist unless we say they do, and thus give it our attention.  I know how this may sound, but think about it.  Whether it’s deciding that a piece of paper with a government seal on it has a particular value or exchanging with material goods is more valuable.  We are the deciders.

Don’t stand at the buffet and complain- 

So just like you wouldn’t stand at a buffet in a restaurant and complain about what you don’t want, you would simply focus your desires on the cabbage and NOT the broccoli, the same holds true when faced with things in your personal and in our collective lives.  This world is like that buffet.  We can choose something else.  It may not appear to be that way, standing smack dab in the face of a situation.  But even then, most importantly then, we absolutely can choose another belief and thought pattern that is closer and more in alignment with our ultimate and true desires.

What do you want?

My friend has a beautiful daughter who often, as children do, tends to wine and moan when she wants something or doesn’t want something.  One day when the daughter was having an episode of discomfort and irritability, I heard the mother say, “What do you want, tell me what it is you want?”  And the child said whatever it was she wanted and of course she was granted her desires.  This is how the Universe responds to us.  Of course there are other variables, but the point is, instead of complaining and moaning in regards to what we don’t want, why not state clearly what it is that we DO want.   The Universe is hearing our complaints and moans and is saying, “what do you want, tell me what it is you want.”  But as a collective consciousness we’re seeing things in the world taking place and settling in on disgust, angst, resentment, fury, bitterness, etc.  Never, ever, settling in on what it is we truly desire, and thus the results and outcomes never change.

The New Paradigm- 

So here’s a shift in thought pattern.  Instead of looking at something unwanted and allowing ourselves to feel long-lasting negative emotion, let’s take the time to feel what we need to feel for a brief moment, and as quickly as possible, get right to the thoughts and feelings that feel better.

So what is the best way to contribute as individuals to change or improve on what we perceive as chaotic conditions in the world?

  • Understand and accept the fact that we are powerful creators and have tremendous influence on our lives and the environment we live in.
  • When you see something you don’t desire- DON’T STAY THERE- Keep focus placed on your specific and desired outcome.  (Act like your at a buffet)
  • When you speak, try hard, give it all you have, to speak only of what you want in any circumstance, and very little if any discussion of what you don’t want.
  • Become conscious of what it is that you are creating – look around you – what are you manifesting and how are you feeling mostly.  This will be your two greatest indicators as to what you’re personally creating and what you are indirectly contributing to the collective body.
  • Develop an attitude of gratitude and appreciation, understanding that the process of creation is ALWAYS perfect and precise, that everything is unfolding perfectly based on the energy and vibrational frequency that is being emitted which represents where the collective thought patterns and beliefs are.

Contrary to what we’ve been taught to “believe,” one person can make a huge difference how we live in this world as a society.  When you raise the quality of YOUR thinking and remove limiting beliefs that don’t serve you well, you are raising the frequency of the energy projected through and by the collective consciousness which MUST raise the frequency of the collective consciousness as a whole, which can only produce better and more positive results in the world.




How to Cure Resentment…

   “As I walked out the door toward the gate that would lead to my freedom, I knew if I didn’t leave my bitterness and hatred behind, I’d still be in prison”Nelson Mandela

The definition of resentment is, “bitter indignation at having been treated unfairly.” If you are indignant, you are angered, outraged, annoyed. Are there people in your life or in your past that you “simply can not STAND!” Are there people who make your “skin crawl” every time you see them or hear them speak? Is there a person that “gives you an immediate attitude” when they walk into the room? Are you seeing that person in your mind as you read this? You know EXACTLY who they are don’t you? I know I do. But why do these people command that type of emotional response from us? What is it about that person that unsettles us? And why does this happen? Resentment of course.

We feel that we’ve been wronged, taken advantage of, treated unfairly, spoken to crossly, whatever it is…and we can’t seem to forget it or get past it. And perhaps there is a pattern of behavior that person demonstrates that reinforces the underlying resentment you feel. And we often times are “okay” with holding onto these feelings, these patterns, these cycles. We accept the resentment. But what are we truly accepting? When we accept resentment, we are accepting chaos, turmoil, resistance, and discontent. Furthermore, resentment perpetuates unhappiness. Is ‘unhappy’ how you truly want to feel? Doubtful. So what’s our recourse? We can avoid these people. We can divorce them. We can separate ourselves from them. But here’s what’s funny: getting rid of the person you are resentful towards does not relieve you of your resentment. It is still there. Affecting YOU while the other person goes on about their life.

In order to move forward to be truly “free,” we must acknowledge what we feel and make a conscious choice to release our resentment. Our feelings, our emotions are our own. No one else’s. They are ours to command and do with as we please. Our thoughts, feelings, emotions and expectations create our circumstances and situations. They create a vibrational marker the Universe is constantly responding to. The stronger the feeling, emotion and expectation, the stronger the marker. This is how things are manifested. Therefore, when we understand the type of life we want to live, the type of character we want to demonstrate and the person we are or want to be, it is important not to cloud the path along our journey with continuous feelings of hatred, discontent and resentment. Not for ourselves and not for anyone else.

  • Explore – Explore your mind to uncover why you still harbor those feelings of resentment. So many times we are holding onto grudges and negative energy not even remembering why we feel the way we do. Ask yourself why you feel that way about the person. Is the answer valid to you? Is it actually affecting you today? Right now this moment? If it is, have you tried to create a different moment? The reason I ask is because if you are not creating a new moment, you are allowing the other person to create your moment for you which you are displaying through your resentment.
  •  Why Is It Important? – Whatever someone has said or done to you, why is it important? Don’t get me wrong, we should all protect ourselves from harm. But if you are not physically or emotionally harmed, ask yourself in regards to the person you are resentful towards, “why is it important?” And then realize…YOU command your reality. YOU command your emotion, feeling and expectation which is the fodder used to manifest desire. So WHY IS IT IMPORTANT to hold onto something someone did or said to you which is allowing THEM to create a reality for YOU that you do not want.
  • Sincerely Forgive Them – Release it. Ya know, namaste seems to be almost a ‘buzz word’ now days. But the real meaning of namaste, while it is a greeting, is “The Divine Light in Me Sees and Recognizes the Divine Light in You.” Regardless of our actions, and the ills we experience, when we can actually “SEE” someone for who they truly are, another soul along this journey of life, it makes it that much easier to sincerely forgive people. Forgiveness is in our nature. That’s why we feel GOOD when we truly forgive. Release it and you will, in turn, release yourself from the emotional bondage that is holding you back.

There is no need to “get them back” for whatever it is they have done to you. We have been socialized to strike back when attacked. (Again, yes, protect yourself from bodily harm at all times) But that’s not the attack we’re speaking about. We have been socialized to believe when we attack back, we are showing our strength. In true reality, our strength does not come from the physical level. Our true strength comes from within where we command what we desire to feel and manifest the realities we desire to live. Don’t let resentment be the roadblock stopping you from reaching your desired destination. Namaste.


Let’s Just Face Reality!

Well, actually let’s NOT do that!  We do not encourage anyone, at any time, for any reason to “face” reality.   No matter how dire the circumstances appear to be.  We are proponents of CREATING reality.  Of course, there are times where we obviously are forced to deal with things that are presented to us in the moment.  But usually by that time, we’ve already missed the opportunity to create.

Over the past couple of weeks, there have been two very hot topics of discussion.  One, Colin Kaepernick’s triumphant win as it may be, where he fought for a cause he felt passionately about, stayed the course, and prevailed so to speak.  The second incident involved Serena Williams’ lost at the U.S. Open where she felt like she was cheated. In both scenarios there were discussions of injustice, inequality, racial and gender disparity, and so on.  When we look at both cases we can see what appears to be obvious unfairness and wrong doing.  But is it really?  Is there anything else we can factor into these equations and others we may personally experience in our own lives that seemingly we have absolutely no control over? Where do we factor nonphysical forces into our lives? Do we have any influence over things that happen to us BEFORE they happen?

We’ve been trained by, well-meaning and sometimes not so well-meaning people, to deal with issues “head on”, by confronting/facing reality or else.  People who refuse to face reality can get a lot of frowns, not to mention the label of being irresponsible.  As a society we just don’t take kindly to people ignoring the facts as they are presented, and dealing with them.

We’ve discussed in our past posts that nothing, absolutely nothing precedes vibration.  Your vibrational marker, your vibrational point of attraction is the basis for which anything and all things are manifested in your life.  You’ve also heard us say frequently that we live in an attraction-based world and Universe.  And how nothing comes to us, except that we attract it on a vibrational level first.

For anyone who is unfamiliar with how this works, simply put, you ask for something by thinking about it.  You ask for something by giving your attention to the subject.  Worrying about something, complaining about something is the same as asking.  Your attention to a thing, whether it be positive or negative is a request.  Sometimes, in fact most all times, we are unaware of where we stand on a particular subject vibrationally, until the subject manifests in our lives in ways that are undesirable.  Then, we give so much negative attention to that subject and the Law of Attraction does its job by providing us more of the same.  This why the rich get richer, the poor get poorer, when it rains it pours, and so on. You always get more of what you give more of your attention to and less of what you give less of your attention to. It happens automatically!  You get what you think about or what matches your thoughts vibrationally, WHETHER YOU WANT IT OR NOT. You can only reel in and have life experiences to that which you are a vibrational match to. 

If we can consider for a second, the fact that everything physical comes from and out of what is non-physical, including but not limited to real life circumstances, situations, and events, we may then be able ask ourselves why are we so focused on the here and now or  the “What Is?”  Why do we give some much credence and so much of our attention to what’s going on right in front of us?  This is because we live in such a physical, see it, touch it, smell it, hear it, taste it environment.  And because we don’t really understand vibration, we discount its power.

Obviously it makes a lot of sense to address life from an action-based, physical standpoint until you come to realize Who You Really Are, a spiritual being having a physical experience, part of the same source of energy that created this world and Universe, born for the purpose of making decisions, coming to your own conclusions about life, and deliberately creating your own reality.

What’s going on right now, in this moment, is really history from a vibrational perspective.  The circumstances in our lives right now and every single condition we’re experiencing now, were created by the thoughts we thought, and thoughts we held and maintained BEFORE.  Does that make sense?  It’s all old news.  It’s all a product of the vibration we had last week, last year, yesterday or an hour ago. Looking at it from this perspective we may be able to understand that what’s happening currently, is only a mere snapshot in time of a vibration that used to be.  So what is, is not such a big deal vibrationally speaking.  Everything is always about creation – where you stand and where you desire to be.

So don’t be dismayed at what is happening now.  Stop facing reality and start creating reality.  Exercise your given power to architect and orchestrate exactly what you want to experience in life. Pre-pave your life by raising your vibration, increasing your immediate impact and influence over all that comes to you.  We attract only who and what we are.  Be love, be giving, be compassion, be joy, and watch your external reality match your internal vibration.





The Walking, Talking Dead…Are You a Zombie?

  So, I am a HUGE fan of the shows The Walking Dead and also Fear the Walking Dead. For me, it simply makes for good, mind-numbing entertainment. LOL…not much more to it than that. If you don’t know or are not familiar with the show, the premise is, “something” (we still don’t know what) has happened in our world to change people from being people to being senseless, zombies who’s sole existence is walking around aimlessly. Oh! and if they can get their hands on you, they will eat you alive. It’s what I do when I want to disconnect from everyday life and get my blood pressure up. LOL…

But what was crazy to me the last time I watched the show was the correlation my mind was making with the mindless zombies on the show with actual people in my everyday life. The zombies on the show continuously walk with no plan or direction or thought about what is happening. They are mentally and physically numb to their actual existence. They simply follow along with the other zombies not looking left or right. They have no proactive intentions. (unless it’s eating your brains) They are not doing anything on the show to support any desire because they are numb to it all. The only time there is a change in their behavior is when something stimulates them; a fire, loud noises, seeing an actual living creature they want to eat. Other than some event happening around them, they continue walking in their “living dead” existence…over and over and over again. We get excited, motivated, stimulated from events, circumstances and/or things we see happening in the news. But do we do anything outside of that? Or do we go back to our mind-numbing existences until the next stimulation?

There’s no judgment in that as we can all fall into this same zombie-like state. How many of us are actually living mentally, spiritually and physically proactive? We may say, “well I do! I go to work and provide for my family everyday!” Or, “I wake up with an agenda and a plan everyday! I’m good.” Really? Many of us do excellent jobs at planning for retirement, scheduling vacations or working hard on our jobs. But are you really living life mentally, spiritually and physically proactive? Living life fully aware takes practice. It’s not “hard work.” It’s deliberate work. Living life fully aware is diligently and purposefully CHOOSING thoughts that coincide with your desire. Living life fully aware is being committed to ACTING on the highest levels of your inspiration immediately in that moment. Some people characterize this as “following your gut feelings.” Living fully aware is DECIDING to actively manifest the day, the circumstance and the situation that most aligns with who you truly are. So…how do we learn to live fully aware and abstain from zombie-hood? By learning to live proactively.


  • Who Do You WANT to Be? – Decide what type of person you want to be. No bars. No boundaries. No preconceived notions of who you THINK you are right now. But who or better yet, what type of person would you like to be? More confident? More loving? More passionate? More kind? More giving? By living, acting and speaking in the manner of who you most desire to be as a person, you begin to live a more authentic you. The you that coincides with your deepest desires of authenticity. You have DECIDED to create the reality you desire by being the person you want to be. And if you’re 100% satisfied with who you currently are, decide on how you can share that authenticity on an even higher level with others?
  • Align Thought, Word and Deed – The next part about living proactively is paying particular attention to your thoughts, words and deeds. But understand, ALL things begin with a thought. Once we have decided on who it is we want to be, it is important to align our thoughts with that same desire. If I want to be more loving, compassionate, grateful, etc., I must align my thoughts with those same feelings and desires. I would direct my thoughts to focus on love and compassion when that person cuts me off in traffic or says something out of the way to me at work or angers me in my home, if I am to live proactively. I am fully aware of my anger in that moment but I am choosing to offer love and compassion instead. By aligning and commanding thought first…word and deed fall in line next.
  • Self-Evaluate but Don’t Self-Desecrate –  Like we said, living life fully aware takes practice. It’s not “hard work.” It’s deliberate work. We are all works in progress. One of the fundamental tenets of living in awareness is self-evaluation. Deciding what type of day you desire in the morning before you leave the house will provide a road map for your day. At the end of the day, review your journey. What twists and turns happened? How did you handle them? Did they align with your morning’s intentions and desires? Why not? What will you do tomorrow to better align with your intentions and desires? Cognitively do this. Daily. And without judgement! Passing judgment against yourself only serves to stifle the process. And most importantly, those thoughts of judgment DO NOT align with your proactive intentions on living in full awareness.

Living mentally, spiritually and physically proactive provides a space for all of us to become fully aware, fully cognitive and fully enlightened. It’s easy to fall into the traps of the routines of everyday life and move through the day like one of the zombies from a fictional television show. Understanding art imitates life, we should strive to become that much more aware, that much more committed and that much more determined to awaken our awareness, align our thoughts and move in a direction that proactively stimulates our existence. Otherwise we operate as mindless zombies…going with the flow.

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